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<blockquote data-quote="newstart" data-source="post: 728022" data-attributes="member: 22416"><p><em>Hi Tired mama, I am working on it, I will completely divorce my daughter from all financial ties. I made a large cardboard list on all the things we have our name tied up with hers and checking the items off as I completely release her burdens and choices.</em></p><p><em></em></p><p><em>We had some weird things happen financially.1. My daughter and I have similar names and when my daughter went to the bank they accidently put her deposit in my savings and gave her the deposit slip with the balance of my account. I have been saving for a long time so there was a healthy amount in there. Her eyes got real big and said 'wow' I had no idea you saved that much money. She feels as if she can help herself to it now.</em></p><p><em>2.We took her to our financial advisor to get her started up in her future with her own investments. Daughter asked the advisor if her mom and dad were ok for the future and advisor smiled at her and said 'your parents have nothing to worry about, they are really set'</em></p><p><em>I was so mad when my daughter told me this because first of all it is none of her business. I had a feeling she was going to feel entitled to our money and was going to find ways on how to spend it.</em></p><p><em>Before I go on I have to say for several years she showed financial responsibility. She has 2 degrees, she can make a good salary. She stayed above water and was doing well. That is one of the reasons we got suckered into this mess again.</em></p><p><em></em></p><p><em>This is the second and last round of nightmare that we will ever go through. We got suckered into this last mess because we thought it was helping her secure her future. She quit working when she saw our savings and decided it was for her to spend.</em></p><p><em>Financial divorce is what is in the process right now. Each day I pick up my chart and find ways on how I can make this happen faster and how I can sever my financial ties.</em></p><p><em></em></p><p><em>The disrepect, abuse, and all other negative words you can think of that is associated with this type of behavior. It is criminal..</em></p><p></p><p><em>I have to come up with what I am going to do. On one hand I want to get the car and tell her I will be repoing it and trade it in on a model that I really like. I am not a revengeful person but I do get satisfaction out of justice..Justice feels different than revengeful, Justice is what its going to take to make this awful destructive behavior not my problem. I guess what hurts so terribly much is that is she knows what she is doing and disrespecting us like this. I feel like such a fool for thinking I was helping her and moving her forward..Just trying to help her set herself up so she can have a comfortable future. We have the funds to help her but we can't use them because helping her is NOT helping her.</em></p><p><em>I admire all of you that cut this financial bleading to the core and not give a penny more. I admire the strength it takes to do that.</em></p><p><em>I believe this time I will have the strength and it needs to me done.</em></p><p></p><p></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="newstart, post: 728022, member: 22416"] [I]Hi Tired mama, I am working on it, I will completely divorce my daughter from all financial ties. I made a large cardboard list on all the things we have our name tied up with hers and checking the items off as I completely release her burdens and choices. We had some weird things happen financially.1. My daughter and I have similar names and when my daughter went to the bank they accidently put her deposit in my savings and gave her the deposit slip with the balance of my account. I have been saving for a long time so there was a healthy amount in there. Her eyes got real big and said 'wow' I had no idea you saved that much money. She feels as if she can help herself to it now. 2.We took her to our financial advisor to get her started up in her future with her own investments. Daughter asked the advisor if her mom and dad were ok for the future and advisor smiled at her and said 'your parents have nothing to worry about, they are really set' I was so mad when my daughter told me this because first of all it is none of her business. I had a feeling she was going to feel entitled to our money and was going to find ways on how to spend it. Before I go on I have to say for several years she showed financial responsibility. She has 2 degrees, she can make a good salary. She stayed above water and was doing well. That is one of the reasons we got suckered into this mess again. This is the second and last round of nightmare that we will ever go through. We got suckered into this last mess because we thought it was helping her secure her future. She quit working when she saw our savings and decided it was for her to spend. Financial divorce is what is in the process right now. Each day I pick up my chart and find ways on how I can make this happen faster and how I can sever my financial ties. The disrepect, abuse, and all other negative words you can think of that is associated with this type of behavior. It is criminal..[/I] [I]I have to come up with what I am going to do. On one hand I want to get the car and tell her I will be repoing it and trade it in on a model that I really like. I am not a revengeful person but I do get satisfaction out of justice..Justice feels different than revengeful, Justice is what its going to take to make this awful destructive behavior not my problem. I guess what hurts so terribly much is that is she knows what she is doing and disrespecting us like this. I feel like such a fool for thinking I was helping her and moving her forward..Just trying to help her set herself up so she can have a comfortable future. We have the funds to help her but we can't use them because helping her is NOT helping her. I admire all of you that cut this financial bleading to the core and not give a penny more. I admire the strength it takes to do that. I believe this time I will have the strength and it needs to me done.[/I] [I][/I] [/QUOTE]
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