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<blockquote data-quote="New Leaf" data-source="post: 677538" data-attributes="member: 19522"><p>Detachment is not perfect. I think ebb and flow is a great way to describe the emotions we go through during this process. For me, there are two sides, the realization my two <em>cannot</em> live with me----(it would eventually do me <em>under</em>)----physical detachment, then the resulting roller coaster ride and <em>quest</em> <em>to</em> <em>detach</em> <em>emotionally</em>, still love them, but not get drawn into the crazy chaos.</p><p></p><p>I do not think detachment means coldly cutting our D cs off completely.</p><p></p><p>You have a good head on you shoulders and are standing strong, not getting sucked in.</p><p></p><p>I am adamant not to have my two at home because it has been a hard 4 months building mysef back up. I went through the emotional wringer and do not want to go through <em>that again. </em></p><p>Hubs is all " It is what it is" , easier for him to say because</p><p>1. He did not carry them for 9 months</p><p>2. Didn't have to care for their basic daily needs</p><p>3. Is not the object of their venom, but at the same time, who do they call? MOM.......grrrrr</p><p></p><p>He has his own way of dealing with it.</p><p></p><p>I have found that posting here has been a good way to vent, share, get it out, etc. building the toolbox, reading....I just started "Setting Boundaries with your Adult Children."</p><p></p><p>Yup, mine do not want the real help they need, either. They just want <em>us</em> to "help" (enable) so they can continue as is.</p><p>The warped "forest for the trees thinking" -uh huh - know that one too. The strangest dang things come out of their mouths.</p><p>You will get there 4now, you are strong. One day at a time, you will get to the place you need to be for YOU, where your son is concerned. </p><p>You are not alone in trying to get there, so am I. </p><p></p><p>(((Hugs)))</p><p>leafy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="New Leaf, post: 677538, member: 19522"] Detachment is not perfect. I think ebb and flow is a great way to describe the emotions we go through during this process. For me, there are two sides, the realization my two [I]cannot[/I] live with me----(it would eventually do me [I]under[/I])----physical detachment, then the resulting roller coaster ride and [I]quest[/I] [I]to[/I] [I]detach[/I] [I]emotionally[/I], still love them, but not get drawn into the crazy chaos. I do not think detachment means coldly cutting our D cs off completely. You have a good head on you shoulders and are standing strong, not getting sucked in. I am adamant not to have my two at home because it has been a hard 4 months building mysef back up. I went through the emotional wringer and do not want to go through [I]that again. [/I] Hubs is all " It is what it is" , easier for him to say because 1. He did not carry them for 9 months 2. Didn't have to care for their basic daily needs 3. Is not the object of their venom, but at the same time, who do they call? MOM.......grrrrr He has his own way of dealing with it. I have found that posting here has been a good way to vent, share, get it out, etc. building the toolbox, reading....I just started "Setting Boundaries with your Adult Children." Yup, mine do not want the real help they need, either. They just want [I]us[/I] to "help" (enable) so they can continue as is. The warped "forest for the trees thinking" -uh huh - know that one too. The strangest dang things come out of their mouths. You will get there 4now, you are strong. One day at a time, you will get to the place you need to be for YOU, where your son is concerned. You are not alone in trying to get there, so am I. (((Hugs))) leafy [/QUOTE]
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