Kanga's latest therapist called to set up a family therapy session. Since Kanga is less than 15 months away from 18 and has ZERO chance of returning home, I did express that I thought it was 'not an effective use of time' to have family therapy but that we would make ourselves available per the requirements of her grant. I felt really bad but I think she needs to help Kanga deal with the fact that she cannot repair the damage that she did to this family, that we have no desire to reunify and 'relationship building' will be an exercise in frustration for all of us. Looking at our lives, all 4 of the kids have hit me at one time or another. All (except Piglet) have put holes in the walls, been defiant, etc. But I would still jump through fire for them. I think the biggest thing is that I do not believe that Kanga truly has any desire to be a member of our family. And I do not think she has any remorse for hurting us (remorse that she got consequences, but not remorse for the pain she caused). Both boys (a) have outgrown most of those behaviors (b) sob horribly afterwards and try everything to make it better. therapist is sending me some info on relationships when one person has a personality disorder. I'll read it cause I'm an information junky, but I still think it comes down to Kanga making the decision to respect our rights to live a violence-free life.