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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 628328" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I have a suggestion as I don't believe that talking too much with difficult children is good. They rarely let things go and can blow up bigger than the balloon from The Wizard of Oz. So I'd make up a little white lie; the sort of lie that hurts nobody and can smooth things over, sort of like saying, "Yes, I like it very much" when somebody asks you if you like their horrendous new shoes. You can't tell the truth to the shoe lady or you'll hurt her feelings. Telling difficult child the truth will cause you angst, drama, and probably hurt her feelings too. I'd write my play this way:</p><p></p><p>You: I made a mistake about Grandson's birthday. They want to keep it very small and only the grandparents are invited, no other relatives.</p><p></p><p>Her: (whatever angst, abuse, cussing she responds with)</p><p></p><p>You: I'm sorry. It's not my decision. Grandson has been crabby lately and they want to keep it small. I'm sorry you're disappointed, but I should not have spoken for them without asking.</p><p></p><p>Her: More garbled abuse or angst or tears.</p><p></p><p>You: You can see him another time. This conversation is over. (Leave the room)</p><p></p><p>I don't like to get into long explanations with 36 because he invariably has an angry, irrational, or poor-little-me answer to everything and he would never end a conversation if I did not. I love COM's "This conversation is over" lolol. But you have to make it be over.</p><p></p><p>Good luck and tell us what you ultimately did and how it worked out.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 628328, member: 1550"] I have a suggestion as I don't believe that talking too much with difficult children is good. They rarely let things go and can blow up bigger than the balloon from The Wizard of Oz. So I'd make up a little white lie; the sort of lie that hurts nobody and can smooth things over, sort of like saying, "Yes, I like it very much" when somebody asks you if you like their horrendous new shoes. You can't tell the truth to the shoe lady or you'll hurt her feelings. Telling difficult child the truth will cause you angst, drama, and probably hurt her feelings too. I'd write my play this way: You: I made a mistake about Grandson's birthday. They want to keep it very small and only the grandparents are invited, no other relatives. Her: (whatever angst, abuse, cussing she responds with) You: I'm sorry. It's not my decision. Grandson has been crabby lately and they want to keep it small. I'm sorry you're disappointed, but I should not have spoken for them without asking. Her: More garbled abuse or angst or tears. You: You can see him another time. This conversation is over. (Leave the room) I don't like to get into long explanations with 36 because he invariably has an angry, irrational, or poor-little-me answer to everything and he would never end a conversation if I did not. I love COM's "This conversation is over" lolol. But you have to make it be over. Good luck and tell us what you ultimately did and how it worked out. [/QUOTE]
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