Missed her granddad's funeral

Discussion in 'Parent Emeritus' started by HereWeGoAgain, Aug 13, 2011.

  1. HereWeGoAgain

    HereWeGoAgain Grandpa

    I posted a couple of months back that my father in law was dying - he passed away Monday, much longer than expected. Today was his funeral. difficult child doesn't know he passed or even that he was dying. There has been no contact but we recently received a b'day card addressed to easy child 1 - "Mommy is trying to get better, thinks about her every day" etc. wife tore up the card and never showed it to easy child 1 - is that wrong? I don't think so, difficult child's many broken promises of what she was going to do have done so much damage to easy child 1 and a few more could only do more harm in my opinion.

    So many pictures of my father in law have difficult child in them when she was little and during some of her sober periods, it was very hard on wife losing her dad and being reminded of in a sense losing difficult child as well.
  2. Shari

    Shari IsItFridayYet?

    FWIW, I don't think it was wrong. At some point, it just becomes survival.

  3. DammitJanet

    DammitJanet Well-Known Member Staff Member

    I dont think it was wrong either. Someday she is gonna be sorry for her actions I think. I hope.
  4. elizabrary

    elizabrary Member

    I'm sorry- you are going through a stressful, made all the worse by the selfish and uncaring actions of a difficult child! I don't think ripping the card up was wrong either. It just makes things harder on the kids. I hope things get better- you and your family are in my thoughts!