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<blockquote data-quote="DammitJanet" data-source="post: 628975" data-attributes="member: 1514"><p>There really isnt a whole lot that is going to make you feel like mother of the year right now. Actually most parents feel a sense of loss when any of their kids move out but when they are kicked out its just more intense. Your comment about knitting made me chuckle a little because years ago I was in a really bad place emotionally for a reason I cant remember right now but I decided to learn to crochet. Then I decided I would crochet a never ending granny square blanket. I have a king sized bed so that was going to be one big blanket! But my thinking at the time was I felt like I wanted to die but I wouldnt do anything to myself until I finished that blanket. </p><p></p><p>Eventually I got that blanket big enough for my bed but I never did finish it off in the proper way. I just tied off a corner so I could make it bigger if I wanted to. By the time it was done I was not in the crisis I was when I started it but I figured I better keep it alive just in case.</p><p></p><p>Now about how badly you miss your son. I have been there but it was for an entirely different reason. My middle son had wanted to be a Marine since he was 8 years old. It was his driving ambition in life. He was in JROTC when 9/11 happened and about 2/3rds of his class dropped out but not him. His resolve just got deeper about wanting to serve his country. I had always supported him in this because I am also the daughter of a Marine, the niece of several Marines and the granddaughter of a Naval officer. The military is in our blood. However 9/11 had just happened and it was all you heard about. That was a scary time. </p><p></p><p>My son joined into the Marines when he was 17 as an early enlistment. He left for boot camp when he was 18. His father and I cried like babies the entire time we were driving home from dropping him off at the place where they bus them to Parris Island. Then we pretty much cried the 17 weeks he was gone. The only contact we had with his was letters. We lived for those letters. I wrote him daily. We worried constantly because boot camp in the Marines is no picnic. I will spare you the details but I will say the last day his drill instructor hit him was the day he graduated. (They dont tell you that happens on a daily basis)</p><p></p><p>And then...he graduated and we worried more. But we got through it and now he is out. His tour is over but he picked a career that is dangerous too. He works for the sheriff's dept. This boy of mine wants to give me a heart attack...lol. It has been 11 years now since he left home. The people on this board held my hand while I about went crazy. They also cheered with me when things went well. I still worry about him pretty much daily because I know that at any time some nut could decide they dont like his uniform and shoot him. I dont dwell on that. I know that should anything bad happen I will be notified. We, as parents, cant constantly think about all the bad things that can happen because good stuff can happen too. I like to think about the good.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DammitJanet, post: 628975, member: 1514"] There really isnt a whole lot that is going to make you feel like mother of the year right now. Actually most parents feel a sense of loss when any of their kids move out but when they are kicked out its just more intense. Your comment about knitting made me chuckle a little because years ago I was in a really bad place emotionally for a reason I cant remember right now but I decided to learn to crochet. Then I decided I would crochet a never ending granny square blanket. I have a king sized bed so that was going to be one big blanket! But my thinking at the time was I felt like I wanted to die but I wouldnt do anything to myself until I finished that blanket. Eventually I got that blanket big enough for my bed but I never did finish it off in the proper way. I just tied off a corner so I could make it bigger if I wanted to. By the time it was done I was not in the crisis I was when I started it but I figured I better keep it alive just in case. Now about how badly you miss your son. I have been there but it was for an entirely different reason. My middle son had wanted to be a Marine since he was 8 years old. It was his driving ambition in life. He was in JROTC when 9/11 happened and about 2/3rds of his class dropped out but not him. His resolve just got deeper about wanting to serve his country. I had always supported him in this because I am also the daughter of a Marine, the niece of several Marines and the granddaughter of a Naval officer. The military is in our blood. However 9/11 had just happened and it was all you heard about. That was a scary time. My son joined into the Marines when he was 17 as an early enlistment. He left for boot camp when he was 18. His father and I cried like babies the entire time we were driving home from dropping him off at the place where they bus them to Parris Island. Then we pretty much cried the 17 weeks he was gone. The only contact we had with his was letters. We lived for those letters. I wrote him daily. We worried constantly because boot camp in the Marines is no picnic. I will spare you the details but I will say the last day his drill instructor hit him was the day he graduated. (They dont tell you that happens on a daily basis) And then...he graduated and we worried more. But we got through it and now he is out. His tour is over but he picked a career that is dangerous too. He works for the sheriff's dept. This boy of mine wants to give me a heart attack...lol. It has been 11 years now since he left home. The people on this board held my hand while I about went crazy. They also cheered with me when things went well. I still worry about him pretty much daily because I know that at any time some nut could decide they dont like his uniform and shoot him. I dont dwell on that. I know that should anything bad happen I will be notified. We, as parents, cant constantly think about all the bad things that can happen because good stuff can happen too. I like to think about the good. [/QUOTE]
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