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<blockquote data-quote="Nancy" data-source="post: 36672" data-attributes="member: 59"><p>My heart goes out to you. This is a good example of what limited help is out there for our troubled youth. Just as in Va with the young man who did the shooting and the professors who tried to get him help, but not much help was available. And here you are a parent who is obviously screaming for help and can't get it.</p><p></p><p>My husband and I were talking about this last night. With everything we have gone through with difficult child there was a time she was associating with some kids who could have been that shooter in Va. We know of a neighbor boy right now who seems very disturbed and his myspace is very dark and violent. I would not be surprised to hear he was involved in a violent situation some day. What can we do. I wondered last night if this Va young man's parents ever thought this could happen. I would have to say that there were times when I thought my difficult child could have done something terrible, so they probably are not surprised, and yet what could they do?</p><p></p><p>When my difficult child was writing her very disturbing notes two years ago the therapist was not concerned. Obviously those involved with the Va shooter wish they had taken his behavior more seriously, but yet what can be done if the person does not want help and they are not in enough danger to be involuntarily commited.</p><p></p><p>I'm sorry, none of this helps you. I know many do not get alarmed at the violent games, movies, songs, writings that our young people engage in. I was more than alarmed. I knew my difficult child could not be involved in those things without it doing great damage to her.</p><p></p><p>We just stuck to our rules, no computer in closed areas, no violent games, tv shows, music, and we cut off computer access when her computer chatter was a concern. </p><p></p><p>If you don't feel he is responding to the medications or therapy perhaps it's time to find another therapist. We knew when that time came and we tried many different therapists in search for one that could help. I just want to encourage you to keep looking for help, don't give up, your son will escalate things because you are putting controls in place and he doesn't like it. He will try to push back but if there is anything I learned it's that in the end our difficult child understood we wouldn't give in. She did run away several times. Perhaps your son will try that. Make sure you monitor who he is talking to and have a plan in place if he does run. We called the police each time. It's important to think ahead to what might happen so you aren't reacting in crisis mode.</p><p></p><p>I'm sorry but this may get worse before it gets better. </p><p></p><p>Nancy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nancy, post: 36672, member: 59"] My heart goes out to you. This is a good example of what limited help is out there for our troubled youth. Just as in Va with the young man who did the shooting and the professors who tried to get him help, but not much help was available. And here you are a parent who is obviously screaming for help and can't get it. My husband and I were talking about this last night. With everything we have gone through with difficult child there was a time she was associating with some kids who could have been that shooter in Va. We know of a neighbor boy right now who seems very disturbed and his myspace is very dark and violent. I would not be surprised to hear he was involved in a violent situation some day. What can we do. I wondered last night if this Va young man's parents ever thought this could happen. I would have to say that there were times when I thought my difficult child could have done something terrible, so they probably are not surprised, and yet what could they do? When my difficult child was writing her very disturbing notes two years ago the therapist was not concerned. Obviously those involved with the Va shooter wish they had taken his behavior more seriously, but yet what can be done if the person does not want help and they are not in enough danger to be involuntarily commited. I'm sorry, none of this helps you. I know many do not get alarmed at the violent games, movies, songs, writings that our young people engage in. I was more than alarmed. I knew my difficult child could not be involved in those things without it doing great damage to her. We just stuck to our rules, no computer in closed areas, no violent games, tv shows, music, and we cut off computer access when her computer chatter was a concern. If you don't feel he is responding to the medications or therapy perhaps it's time to find another therapist. We knew when that time came and we tried many different therapists in search for one that could help. I just want to encourage you to keep looking for help, don't give up, your son will escalate things because you are putting controls in place and he doesn't like it. He will try to push back but if there is anything I learned it's that in the end our difficult child understood we wouldn't give in. She did run away several times. Perhaps your son will try that. Make sure you monitor who he is talking to and have a plan in place if he does run. We called the police each time. It's important to think ahead to what might happen so you aren't reacting in crisis mode. I'm sorry but this may get worse before it gets better. Nancy [/QUOTE]
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