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<blockquote data-quote="LoveTempered" data-source="post: 762010" data-attributes="member: 28752"><p>So sorry for all you are going through. Sometimes being the person working on healthy relationships means leaving some people behind or changing your expectations of what it means to be in a relationship. It is hard to do this when they are your children but being caught in an abuse cycle with them is not in the job description. I have had to learn and continue to learn that relationships that expect me to ransom my well-being and/or my values are not a good idea. It is a process of continual learning because it is so easy to get caring for someone entangled with being a party to their toxic patterns. I get lot's of practice because I am a magnet for narcissists! (Working on that too.) </p><p></p><p>It sounds like you are healing and taking care of yourself. You have strong feelings about the suffering in the world right now. These truths make you who you are. That is a good thing! Maybe it will be longer than you like before you see your grandson. When you do, he will be blessed with knowing a strong, loving and healthy person who did not participate in toxic games created by sick people who you love but cannot heal. Maybe one day you will be the island of sane he escapes to. Maybe not. Either way, you can choose to honor your healing and values by disengaging from the situation you describe. It sounds like an exhausting circus and that you deserve a better life. I hope you find peace with whatever you decide to do. Blessings.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="LoveTempered, post: 762010, member: 28752"] So sorry for all you are going through. Sometimes being the person working on healthy relationships means leaving some people behind or changing your expectations of what it means to be in a relationship. It is hard to do this when they are your children but being caught in an abuse cycle with them is not in the job description. I have had to learn and continue to learn that relationships that expect me to ransom my well-being and/or my values are not a good idea. It is a process of continual learning because it is so easy to get caring for someone entangled with being a party to their toxic patterns. I get lot's of practice because I am a magnet for narcissists! (Working on that too.) It sounds like you are healing and taking care of yourself. You have strong feelings about the suffering in the world right now. These truths make you who you are. That is a good thing! Maybe it will be longer than you like before you see your grandson. When you do, he will be blessed with knowing a strong, loving and healthy person who did not participate in toxic games created by sick people who you love but cannot heal. Maybe one day you will be the island of sane he escapes to. Maybe not. Either way, you can choose to honor your healing and values by disengaging from the situation you describe. It sounds like an exhausting circus and that you deserve a better life. I hope you find peace with whatever you decide to do. Blessings. [/QUOTE]
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