Hi all, This has been a tough week. My son is in a bad way and I am worried about him. We did see him for a short time today and we talked to our insurance and got a list of approved rehabs. My son made a bunch of calls and is waiting for calls back.....and then he wanted to leave. I think when he saw us Sunday he was excited to see us but did not want is to see him drunk (which I appreciate) but by that night he was feeling really sick from withdrawal! Which is why he didn't want to see us yesterday....and today he was really uncomfortable with the need to drink! He is miserable and is clearly admitting he needs help and that he is an alcoholic. He is drinking a LOT and I had not realized how bad it is and he admitted to us that it is bad. So we talked some today and said he really needs to get in somewhere tomorrow and we will drive him. He agreed and said if he can't get into a place he wants he will go to a hospital. So we will see...I want him to get help but am worried overall about his situation and the long term support. As much as this trip has been hard and we haven't seen him much I am glad we came. I think he needs to know we love Anne support him no matter what. I do feel that by helping him the last few months we have enabled him somewhat but maybe his drinking had to get to this point for him to realize he really doesn't want to live this way. I am really rethinking my thoughts on tough love....I still believe you need to have boundaries and I don't regret any of the stands we have taken over the years but I also believe that this is an illness and that our kids need to know we love them and are there for them. And as you all know I am a strong believer in taking care of ourselves....right now I do have a shadow of worry over me, but my husband and I djid go out to the movies both yesterday and today. So send good thoughts to us that he actually gets into some kind of detox program tomorrow.