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<blockquote data-quote="Calamity Jane" data-source="post: 629293" data-attributes="member: 13882"><p>Cedar,</p><p>Customs vary. I'm from a large and (possibly strange) Italian family, and we often send money in the sympathy cards, but that is for family and very close friends. It is practical. For a co-worker, or acquaintance, etc. we wouldn't do that, although it's a very thoughtful offering. Some people might take it the wrong way. If you're really close with the sister, you can write a note in the card explaining why you're giving money, and add that you hope it doesn't result in offense. If it were me receiving the card, I'd be so grateful that someone even acknowledged my family's pain and loss, and would think it was a lovely tribute. So many people don't know what to say or do, and they end up doing nothing. How many fruit baskets can people eat? Flowers die and it's depressing. Money is helpful, even when you're in shock. I'm sorry for that family - what a terrible loss.</p><p> </p><p>Many years ago when I got married, a co-worker of mine who was from a wealthy WASP family, was shocked and appalled that husband and I got envelopes instead of wrapped gifts! She said she'd never, ever been to a wedding where people stuffed cards into the bride's white satin purse and she thought it was hilariously tacky! So customs are customs, I guess.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Calamity Jane, post: 629293, member: 13882"] Cedar, Customs vary. I'm from a large and (possibly strange) Italian family, and we often send money in the sympathy cards, but that is for family and very close friends. It is practical. For a co-worker, or acquaintance, etc. we wouldn't do that, although it's a very thoughtful offering. Some people might take it the wrong way. If you're really close with the sister, you can write a note in the card explaining why you're giving money, and add that you hope it doesn't result in offense. If it were me receiving the card, I'd be so grateful that someone even acknowledged my family's pain and loss, and would think it was a lovely tribute. So many people don't know what to say or do, and they end up doing nothing. How many fruit baskets can people eat? Flowers die and it's depressing. Money is helpful, even when you're in shock. I'm sorry for that family - what a terrible loss. Many years ago when I got married, a co-worker of mine who was from a wealthy WASP family, was shocked and appalled that husband and I got envelopes instead of wrapped gifts! She said she'd never, ever been to a wedding where people stuffed cards into the bride's white satin purse and she thought it was hilariously tacky! So customs are customs, I guess. [/QUOTE]
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