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<blockquote data-quote="SeekingStrength" data-source="post: 623192" data-attributes="member: 17635"><p>CA Mom,</p><p></p><p>Hey, girl. My son is THIRTY-TWO (thirty-three next month). The most difficult time was deciding to stop the money. Granted, it stayed difficult for awhile, but slowly and surely has gotten better.</p><p></p><p>husband and i did not give him money all this time. There have been spurts of working and/or difficult child finding others to support him. But, when his last relationship fell apart because he was not working and using spice, he turned to us. We started sending him money again, not knowing the circumstances. He told us different stories, but basically that it was just a "broke month" and we believed him...until the requests escalated and the girlfriend told us what was going on.</p><p></p><p>Like your son, our difficult child treated us terribly when the money stopped. Horribly. Unbelievable.</p><p></p><p>husband and i know we did the right thing. This began in December. <strong>We are just now enjoying life again</strong>. At first, we made ourselves get out, take day trips, etc. Now, we are feeling more "normal". Last night, husband commented, <em> We are where we need to be.</em></p><p>That statement has played over and over in my head....so true! Living is fun again.</p><p></p><p>I hope you stay strong for your well-being. Sending your son $$ will not help ANYthing.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SeekingStrength, post: 623192, member: 17635"] CA Mom, Hey, girl. My son is THIRTY-TWO (thirty-three next month). The most difficult time was deciding to stop the money. Granted, it stayed difficult for awhile, but slowly and surely has gotten better. husband and i did not give him money all this time. There have been spurts of working and/or difficult child finding others to support him. But, when his last relationship fell apart because he was not working and using spice, he turned to us. We started sending him money again, not knowing the circumstances. He told us different stories, but basically that it was just a "broke month" and we believed him...until the requests escalated and the girlfriend told us what was going on. Like your son, our difficult child treated us terribly when the money stopped. Horribly. Unbelievable. husband and i know we did the right thing. This began in December. [B]We are just now enjoying life again[/B]. At first, we made ourselves get out, take day trips, etc. Now, we are feeling more "normal". Last night, husband commented, [I] We are where we need to be.[/I] That statement has played over and over in my head....so true! Living is fun again. I hope you stay strong for your well-being. Sending your son $$ will not help ANYthing. [/QUOTE]
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