My head is spinning a bit. We took Difficult Child with us for the holiday weekend. We are visiting relatives and she wanted to come. We very rarely do this, but made an exception. She took the train up for a few days and will take the train back tomorrow. Difficult Child is very overweight. While here, she wanted to wear something inappropriate. Let's say a mini dress. When we told her that this wouldn't be a good idea under any circumstances, but perhaps more so with relatives, she flew off the handle accusing me of everything under the sun, yelling at husband, calling her friends and saying she is miserable... We bought her some new clothing items for this little trip that she picked and look great on her, have been treating her to just about anything she wants and she is moody, peculiar and sarcastic. When we go out to eat, it is very noticeable that she over eats. She also eats about two of each meal. She'll get up early, for example, and have a big bowl of cereal and then go out to breakfast with us and have a big breakfast at the restaurant. (Double breakfast) This might repeat for lunch and dinner. We had lots of left overs in the fridge from all of us and they are ALL gone...she ate everyone's leftovers. I'm shocked, because this is on top of her having one to two meals for each meal. We went to an "all you can eat place," and she had Mac and cheese, other carbs and several desserts. I recall when she was pushing 200 pounds, but now she is WAY over this mark. She is in her mid twenties. If anyone mentions,that she has gained weight, she flies off the handle. husband and I found this fantastic ice cream place that offers sugar free ice cream, which we normally hate, but this place has a homemade, good version. We asked if she would try it. Nope. Wouldn't even try it. true, we shouldn't have gone there at all, but we have self control and wanted a treat...I think we are sick of giving things up for her. (We didn't say a word about her choice) She flies off the handle for all things that she doesn't wish to hear or cooperate with. If she argues with a friend and she is clearly in the wrong and loses the friendship and you try to explain what you think might have gone wrong, to prevent it from happening again...she'll scream her head off...accusing you of everything under the sun. She's been diagnosis'd with bipolar illness and we know this is part of her illness. My husband says most people would say she is acting like a major jerk. Deep down, she is a caring individual, but she often displays an almost impossible personality. She is now in her mid 20s and thank goodness doesn't live with us. I feel sad that in my humble opinion, with these "attributes," she won't be able to hold down a job or meet nice folks or keep a good friend. I try hard to detach and am still detached....but I have bad moments like I'm feeling right this second. (Don't worry, I will go right back to detachment...I have no other choice) As a rule, she doesn't act like this with us. She rarely is rude to us, for example. But trying to associate with her for more than a few hours at a time, seems to bring out the worst in her. Anyone have similar experiences, especially regarding the food, inappropriate attire and flying off the handle if you dare to think differently? Able to make any inroads? She's on medications, but won't see a therapist, refuses, messes up, has no interest. Ironically, she does show slight improvement when she goes regularly....but again, has NO interest in seeing a therpist, even though this helps her a little. If you push her, she sabotages the entire ordeal and creates a huge mess.