BusynMember
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I won't whine too long. I am choosing not to get too involved in this chapter of 36's life. I'm so glad I learned to detach before this because he is already begging my ex for money to pay off his crazed new girlfriend.
So 36 met a pretty young woman online who was still married, but separated and she has A LOT of money so before I knew what happened, she had moved in with her three year old daughter who is a trainwreck because of the divorce. The short story (sorry if it's not short, but this IS the short version). They immediately buy expensive toys using her money, inclusing a 2014 Corvette (I think this is right. I am not into cars). She buys a new washer/dryer/refrigerator, crapets his house, etc. She buys my grandson $500 worth of toys at a crack and he LOVES her. The problem is she is severely mentally ill an d has a mean streak and is still going through her divorce and is attached to her ex. Recipe for disaster. My son finally told me, "This can't go on. I should have listened to you. Money isn't everything." Blah, blah, blah.
If he tries to toss her out, he is under eviction laws and she did get rid of her rental home to move in with him. His son is going to be a disaster since his son loves her very much...she is not that nice to difficult child or her own daughter (she has no idea how to handle her), but she is great with my grandson who is a very well behaved and fun six year old. Maybe he won't be after this. Sadly, how much can a little boy take? This young woman has been hospitalized, did not see her daughter for six months at one crack (we don't know why) and is clearly irrational, has night terrors, and will not go for appropriate help and 36 convinced her to go off her Depakote, of which he is sorry for now, but she won't go back on it. (Wow, sometimes your bad choices hit you in the face). Anyhkow, he wants to break up, but she is demanding all sorts of financial compensation. Meanwhile, she is still there and difficult child is a mess and is also a mess thinking about being alone again. Ex, as always, will fund him.
difficult child knew that she was a hot bed of psychiatric problems, but he liked the money. Honestly, he creates his own drama. The only one I really feel sorry for in this mess is my grandson. I know I have truly detached with love because I can shake my head at this latest without crying about it, wondering where I went wrong, and not thinking about it 24/7. Thanks for reading this. It is mostly a vent because, no matter how many times it happens, I am always shocked at how 36 keeps making monumental horrible decisions that get him into tons of trouble. But his dilemma is no longer capable of ruining my life.
So 36 met a pretty young woman online who was still married, but separated and she has A LOT of money so before I knew what happened, she had moved in with her three year old daughter who is a trainwreck because of the divorce. The short story (sorry if it's not short, but this IS the short version). They immediately buy expensive toys using her money, inclusing a 2014 Corvette (I think this is right. I am not into cars). She buys a new washer/dryer/refrigerator, crapets his house, etc. She buys my grandson $500 worth of toys at a crack and he LOVES her. The problem is she is severely mentally ill an d has a mean streak and is still going through her divorce and is attached to her ex. Recipe for disaster. My son finally told me, "This can't go on. I should have listened to you. Money isn't everything." Blah, blah, blah.
If he tries to toss her out, he is under eviction laws and she did get rid of her rental home to move in with him. His son is going to be a disaster since his son loves her very much...she is not that nice to difficult child or her own daughter (she has no idea how to handle her), but she is great with my grandson who is a very well behaved and fun six year old. Maybe he won't be after this. Sadly, how much can a little boy take? This young woman has been hospitalized, did not see her daughter for six months at one crack (we don't know why) and is clearly irrational, has night terrors, and will not go for appropriate help and 36 convinced her to go off her Depakote, of which he is sorry for now, but she won't go back on it. (Wow, sometimes your bad choices hit you in the face). Anyhkow, he wants to break up, but she is demanding all sorts of financial compensation. Meanwhile, she is still there and difficult child is a mess and is also a mess thinking about being alone again. Ex, as always, will fund him.
difficult child knew that she was a hot bed of psychiatric problems, but he liked the money. Honestly, he creates his own drama. The only one I really feel sorry for in this mess is my grandson. I know I have truly detached with love because I can shake my head at this latest without crying about it, wondering where I went wrong, and not thinking about it 24/7. Thanks for reading this. It is mostly a vent because, no matter how many times it happens, I am always shocked at how 36 keeps making monumental horrible decisions that get him into tons of trouble. But his dilemma is no longer capable of ruining my life.