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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 655654" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Interesting questions Copa, thanks for asking. </p><p></p><p>Well, I've gone through a letting go process about my role here. I was holding on like we humans who are into control often do......another role of mine to let go of, RE the moderator! So, I'm allowing myself to make small changes.......I asked for moderators and luckily for me and for all of us, Childofmine, Tanya and CrazyinVa were willing....that allowed me some space to make choices.......I CAN be here but I don't HAVE to be, there are others taking very good care of things. So my big sense of responsibility was taken care of. I felt weird about it at first, it's been such a big part of my life for a long time........but now I pop in and respond and pop back out. </p><p></p><p>I've noticed that other members whose kids smoothed out left the forum and I've also listened to others who needed to move on because it brought them to places they felt they had moved past and they didn't want to revisit that place again.......but sometimes they pop in periodically. I can understand how that happens. And, it may happen to me. I feel pretty neutral about it today, but I can also imagine a time when my life may just take on different types of adventures which may take me away. And, truthfully, I can also imagine me hanging out sort of offering a hand out of that quicksand on occasion..........because let's face it, I may not be enabling anymore, but I really do still have that "helper" instinct! </p><p></p><p>Thank you Copa. Others helped me to see that there was life after 'troubled kid land'.........they held that light for me.......right now it feels right to keep holding that light.......as you do too........as we all do.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 655654, member: 13542"] Interesting questions Copa, thanks for asking. Well, I've gone through a letting go process about my role here. I was holding on like we humans who are into control often do......another role of mine to let go of, RE the moderator! So, I'm allowing myself to make small changes.......I asked for moderators and luckily for me and for all of us, Childofmine, Tanya and CrazyinVa were willing....that allowed me some space to make choices.......I CAN be here but I don't HAVE to be, there are others taking very good care of things. So my big sense of responsibility was taken care of. I felt weird about it at first, it's been such a big part of my life for a long time........but now I pop in and respond and pop back out. I've noticed that other members whose kids smoothed out left the forum and I've also listened to others who needed to move on because it brought them to places they felt they had moved past and they didn't want to revisit that place again.......but sometimes they pop in periodically. I can understand how that happens. And, it may happen to me. I feel pretty neutral about it today, but I can also imagine a time when my life may just take on different types of adventures which may take me away. And, truthfully, I can also imagine me hanging out sort of offering a hand out of that quicksand on occasion..........because let's face it, I may not be enabling anymore, but I really do still have that "helper" instinct! Thank you Copa. Others helped me to see that there was life after 'troubled kid land'.........they held that light for me.......right now it feels right to keep holding that light.......as you do too........as we all do. [/QUOTE]
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