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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 649531" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>I like your new avatar, 2much.</p><p></p><p>Sparkly pink Supermom.</p><p></p><p>I really like it.</p><p></p><p>:O)</p><p></p><p>***</p><p></p><p>So, this is something I have been thinking about in relation to the genetics topic. It seems there is a caretaker type in every dysfunctional family, too. I had always thought that was a role. But this could be genetically predetermined, as well. There is research out there indicating that our sexuality is expressed along a continuum, with some of us being very female in a female body and, way on the other side of the continuum, some of us being very female in a male body and vice versa. It could be that same way with empathy, or sociopathy and etc. Empath on one side of the continuum and sociopath on the other, both genetic potentials being expressed as frequently as blue eyes or red hair.</p><p></p><p>The more I think like this, the less harshly I judge any of us ~ my kids, or even myself. This is a new feeling, and a welcome one. I had so small an understanding of how heavy that burden of guilt was. I think the PTSD response (for me) is keyed by guilt. I think guilt at what I might have done freezes me in place because whatever it was, I don't want to do it again. Then, I have to fight my way through my own numb so that I can function rationally. It's the strangest feeling. That is why it is so helpful to me to have the words to say, the words I've learned here, when something bad happens with the kids, I suppose.</p><p></p><p>I pronounced them by rote, in the beginning, when I first came here.</p><p></p><p>Now, I believe it, too.</p><p></p><p>(I do think an abusive parent makes a choice, because the nature of the abuse changes as the children get too big to terrorize. So my mom is no way off the hook here, genetics or not.)</p><p></p><p>Heh.</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 649531, member: 17461"] I like your new avatar, 2much. Sparkly pink Supermom. I really like it. :O) *** So, this is something I have been thinking about in relation to the genetics topic. It seems there is a caretaker type in every dysfunctional family, too. I had always thought that was a role. But this could be genetically predetermined, as well. There is research out there indicating that our sexuality is expressed along a continuum, with some of us being very female in a female body and, way on the other side of the continuum, some of us being very female in a male body and vice versa. It could be that same way with empathy, or sociopathy and etc. Empath on one side of the continuum and sociopath on the other, both genetic potentials being expressed as frequently as blue eyes or red hair. The more I think like this, the less harshly I judge any of us ~ my kids, or even myself. This is a new feeling, and a welcome one. I had so small an understanding of how heavy that burden of guilt was. I think the PTSD response (for me) is keyed by guilt. I think guilt at what I might have done freezes me in place because whatever it was, I don't want to do it again. Then, I have to fight my way through my own numb so that I can function rationally. It's the strangest feeling. That is why it is so helpful to me to have the words to say, the words I've learned here, when something bad happens with the kids, I suppose. I pronounced them by rote, in the beginning, when I first came here. Now, I believe it, too. (I do think an abusive parent makes a choice, because the nature of the abuse changes as the children get too big to terrorize. So my mom is no way off the hook here, genetics or not.) Heh. Cedar [/QUOTE]
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