More ridiculous school carp

Discussion in 'The Watercooler' started by flutterby, Apr 16, 2009.

  1. flutterby

    flutterby Fly away!

    easy child wore a Guiness shirt to school today. Granted he shouldn't have, but what happened next was ridiculous.

    The choir teacher was in the attendance office when he got there and she told him he needed to turn his shirt inside out. He said he would. She told him again and he said he would. I don't know if she expected him to strip right there in the hall or what. She then sent an email out to the entire school staff stating: easy child is wearing a beer shirt. Please be on the lookout.

    easy child's first period teacher showed him the email. The teacher thought it was ridiculous. So, this is my email to the principal, assistant principals and the choir teacher:

    It was brought to my attention that on April 16, 2009, an email was sent out to the entire XXX staff regarding my son, easy child. The content of the email stated the following:

    easy child is wearing a beer shirt. Please be on the look out.

    When easy child entered the building on Thursday, April 16, D.G. was in the Attendance Office. She saw easy child's shirt and told him he needed to turn it inside out. To which he replied, "OK." D.G. repeated to easy child that he needed to turn his shirt inside it, and easy child responded that he would. He was not going to strip in the hall in front of other students and teachers/personnel, as that would have been inappropriate. He was going to change his shirt in the bathroom, which he did following this conversation. For the record, it is now 8:23 PM and his shirt is still inside out.

    However, that did not stop the above mentioned email from being sent to the entire XXX staff.

    easy child found it laughable; I find it petty and completely inappropriate. easy child does not drink nor do drugs; he does not cheat, steal, nor lie; he is not aggressive nor violent, and he has not gotten into any physical altercations at school. He has missed a lot of school this year due to documentable illness.

    I would think it would be a better use of the staff's time to focus on those issues, rather than singling out a student because he preferred to change his shirt in the boys room rather than the hall.

    I expect that this will not happen again.

    Heather XX
  2. crazymama30

    crazymama30 Active Member

    Wow. That is just immature and stupid. I would think the teacher would have better things to do with his/her time!!!!
  3. Hound dog

    Hound dog Nana's are Beautiful

    I like you email. You were much kinder than I'd have been. grrrrrrr

    I understand where they're coming from..........but the staff's behavior was waaaaaay out of bounds.

  4. goldenguru

    goldenguru Active Member

    Wow. Pretty strict policies. Talk about making a mountain out of a molehill. Geesh.

    Your son handled it well.
  5. flutterby

    flutterby Fly away!

    They did go overboard. He's sick - been sick since Sunday - and he just grabbed a shirt without looking at it.

    If they were that concerned, they should have sent him to the office to they do every other kid. Sending out that email to the entire staff was ridiculous.
  6. Abbey

    Abbey Spork Queen

    From an educator point of view, I understand them not wanting him to wear the shirt. Allowing him to turn it inside out in private is COMPLETELY appropriate.

    I think a lot of times teachers vex on the smallest things because their arse is on the line most days. When I was a dean, I couldn't believe the things that teachers would send students to me. Don't have a pencil? My the police.

  7. trinityroyal

    trinityroyal Well-Known Member

    Heather, I think your letter was great too.

    The thing that floors me is the content and tone of the choir teacher's e-mail.
    Oh no! The Dreaded BEER SHIRT!

    It's not as though he was wearing a burglar's mask and carrying a sack marked "swag", or anything.

    What an overreaction.
  8. ctmom05

    ctmom05 Member

    The teacher could have handled this sutation in a much more tactful and discreet manner, that's for sure!

    While agreeing that the teacher's reaction was over the top, I still think that larger discipline/behavior issues at school cannot be tackled or remediated successfully without also paying attention to the smaller issues like this one, at the same time.

    Most schools have some sort of dress code, and shirts that depict certain things are on the "do not wear list." If schools are going to have rules and guidelines they need to follow thru on the enforcement end. When the mandates do not make sense students and parents can lobby to make effective changes.
    Last edited: Apr 17, 2009
  9. WhymeMom?

    WhymeMom? No real answers to life..

    Think if I were a rebellious teen I would be wearing a plain t-shirt inside out for the next week........ just to keep her guessing or is there a rule against that? Sorry didn't mean to give any ideas...... I get that you don't want kids wearing beer shirts, but if she was that concerned she could have escorted him to the nearest closet/bathroom to change........
  10. Abbey

    Abbey Spork Queen

    Now THAT is a kind of student I loved to have. Creativity.

  11. Star*

    Star* call 911

    Back in the day - 1976 -

    Farrah Fawcett's famous pose in that burnt orange faded swim suit was hot. Boys got iron ons on their tshirts left and right with her on it.

    OUR school wouldn't even allow you to turn your shirt inside out - they had pink t-shirts for boys that said - I wore the wrong shirt to school and will not do it again.

  12. AnnieO

    AnnieO Shooting from the Hip

    Your easy child must attend difficult child 1's school!

    However... In High School I wore a KISS t-shirt. The band wasn't objectionable, it was the 2 nearly-nude ladies on the front of it! LOL they asked me to change and I asked them why, as you could see nothing objectionable. They said it was suggestive, and maybe I could wear another shirt on top of it. They were nice about it, so I did. No problem - I had another shirt UNDER it.

    But... difficult child 1 wore a Jagermeister shirt to school and it got noticed - last period. Apparently a lot of her teachers can't read German! LOL
  13. trinityroyal

    trinityroyal Well-Known Member


    At the school I went to, I used to get detentions for not having the top button of my blouse done up, or for "non-standard footwear".

    A beer t-shirt is so far out of my frame of reference for school clothes...

  14. flutterby

    flutterby Fly away!

    I totally agree that he should not have worn that shirt. I completely understand that and I don't think it's appropriate to wear something like that to school. My problem is in the way they handled it.

    He went to first period to check in so he wouldn't be late - or he would get detention - before he changed his shirt. His first period teacher had already received the email - and he went straight there from the attendance office. They didn't give him a chance to change it. That's my issue with it.

    Of course, my rebellious teen thought it would be a good idea to go buy several more beer shirts and wear one every day next week. Sigh.... really can't do that.
  15. susiestar

    susiestar Roll With It

    While I can see that the shirt was not within school dress codes, and wearing it was a mistake, the staff member was way out of line with her email.

    I can only imagine how upset she would have been if difficult child had stripped the shirt off right there to turn it inside out! Would she have sent an email saying "difficult child wore a beer shirt to school and then started stripping in the office." ?

    Because if difficult child had tried to turn the shirt inside out then he WOULD have gotten into trouble. Esp with someone who would email all the faculty and staff about this issue.

    What happened to confidentiality and not revealing disciplinary actions or problems to faculty that the student has no relationship with? in my opinion sending the email violated difficult child's right to confidentiality.

    I would also be tempted to wear a beer shirt every day to school. But I would squash the temptation! At least he doesn't want to get one of the shirts with a big pot plant on it. THAT would REALLY shake them up at school!
  16. AnnieO

    AnnieO Shooting from the Hip

    I feel the same way... When they told us we were not allowed to wear sleeveless shirts to work I bought 8 new tank tops... I slip just under the radar because I wear a shirt open over them. It's HOT in here with no AC.

    I wonder if there is a creative way for him to thumb his nose and still stay within the dress code. difficult child 1 is good with this... I could ask her!
  17. trinityroyal

    trinityroyal Well-Known Member


    Not that I'm recommending this or anything, but...

    There's a chain of stores around these parts called French Connection United Kingdom. They usually use only the first initials of their name on the t-shirts and some of the other clothes.

    With the way our brains interpret language, people often transpose the middle two letters when reading the t-shirt. Then, on the double-take, they see it the right way.

    The t-shirts were really popular with local teens a few years ago, much to the chagrin of their parents.
  18. flutterby

    flutterby Fly away!

    You ladies are a bad influence!!! :rofl:

    I think I'll recommend he wear a t-shirt inside out for a while. He'll go for it.
  19. flutterby

    flutterby Fly away!

    And just to give a better picture....

    The attendance office is not an actual office that the kids go into it. It's a window right inside the doors from the student parking lot. So, he was literally standing in the hall where everyone comes in. Not an appropriate place to change his shirt.
  20. AnnieO

    AnnieO Shooting from the Hip

    I want one!

    No, we're not a bad influence. We're flabbergasted at the lack of professionalism.

    OK, maybe we ARE a bad influence.