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<blockquote data-quote="Guidance seeker" data-source="post: 725709" data-attributes="member: 22632"><p>Thank you so ready to live for your reply.</p><p></p><p>It rings so true with me when you said that your help didn’t fix it. I have tried everything I can think of to help my son but he still took drugs, got involved in crime and was abusive to his family. </p><p></p><p>He even blamed me for paying for a bed and breakfast saying he was stuck in a tiny room (his only other option was the streets). I kept pleading with the local homelessness office to find somewhere for him to stay which after 2 weeks they did and he tells me I’ve put him in a “crack house”.</p><p></p><p>He rings me daily with dramas and problems. I don’t think I ever feel relaxed anymore as the anxiety is overwhelming. He constantly loses things - his keys, his wallet etc - which again he blames on me for “stressing him out”.</p><p></p><p>His dad visits daily and takes him food and sometimes a small amount of money. I also often order him takeaways at night. I’m finding it very hard to withdraw this last bit of support. Mainly because I’m terrified that he will come to the house and we will have to call the police - we took out a restraining order and it could result in him going to prison.</p><p></p><p>I am trying not to worry about the crazy mistakes I see him make - he recently took out 4 iPhone contracts (I have only seen one of these phones). Now a large chunk of money is taken from his account (including penalties from the bank for not having money in the day the direct debits were due) on the day he receives his benefits. It’s like he just can’t see consequences to the things he does.</p><p></p><p>I long for the person he was and can’t talk about the nice son I had before the age of 16 without crying. </p><p></p><p>He is often absolutely vile to me - he tells me he hopes I die and that I should kill myself. I know he had a good childhood and was loved very much - he still is. I just don’t understand why he is the way he is now.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Guidance seeker, post: 725709, member: 22632"] Thank you so ready to live for your reply. It rings so true with me when you said that your help didn’t fix it. I have tried everything I can think of to help my son but he still took drugs, got involved in crime and was abusive to his family. He even blamed me for paying for a bed and breakfast saying he was stuck in a tiny room (his only other option was the streets). I kept pleading with the local homelessness office to find somewhere for him to stay which after 2 weeks they did and he tells me I’ve put him in a “crack house”. He rings me daily with dramas and problems. I don’t think I ever feel relaxed anymore as the anxiety is overwhelming. He constantly loses things - his keys, his wallet etc - which again he blames on me for “stressing him out”. His dad visits daily and takes him food and sometimes a small amount of money. I also often order him takeaways at night. I’m finding it very hard to withdraw this last bit of support. Mainly because I’m terrified that he will come to the house and we will have to call the police - we took out a restraining order and it could result in him going to prison. I am trying not to worry about the crazy mistakes I see him make - he recently took out 4 iPhone contracts (I have only seen one of these phones). Now a large chunk of money is taken from his account (including penalties from the bank for not having money in the day the direct debits were due) on the day he receives his benefits. It’s like he just can’t see consequences to the things he does. I long for the person he was and can’t talk about the nice son I had before the age of 16 without crying. He is often absolutely vile to me - he tells me he hopes I die and that I should kill myself. I know he had a good childhood and was loved very much - he still is. I just don’t understand why he is the way he is now. [/QUOTE]
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