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Most difficult years of my life
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<blockquote data-quote="Guidance seeker" data-source="post: 725715" data-attributes="member: 22632"><p>Thank you Jabberwockey. </p><p></p><p>I’m seriously considering no contact but as you say, I’m struggling with it. He is so chaotic, I don’t know how he will survive, maybe adult social care etc will step in if I stop contact and he fails.</p><p></p><p>He got a letter today warning him of eviction if he didn’t pay rent, he only owes £27 (not sure what that is in $). He had left it unread on the floor of the car so i rang to tell him. He said he didn’t care because he wouldn’t be here - he has threatened suicide every few days for the last 2 years, usually to worry me or in response to me not paying for something. He has then gone and paid £40 to stay in a hotel tonight as he “can’t stand living in a crack den”.</p><p></p><p>I also saw a letter that he owes a phone company over £1000 today but he doesn’t seem to care about that either. I have decided not to worry about that.</p><p></p><p>I really appreciate all of the replies that tell me to stop helping him. It gives me so much strength. I wish I was a much tougher person, before the last 4 years I was lucky that I had no one in my family who behaved like my son. I had no idea how to handle the situation at all and my whole experience of family was to help each other out no matter what. I’m trying really hard to change my attitude towards him. I’m so glad I found this site - such valuable, caring advice from people who have been through this.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Guidance seeker, post: 725715, member: 22632"] Thank you Jabberwockey. I’m seriously considering no contact but as you say, I’m struggling with it. He is so chaotic, I don’t know how he will survive, maybe adult social care etc will step in if I stop contact and he fails. He got a letter today warning him of eviction if he didn’t pay rent, he only owes £27 (not sure what that is in $). He had left it unread on the floor of the car so i rang to tell him. He said he didn’t care because he wouldn’t be here - he has threatened suicide every few days for the last 2 years, usually to worry me or in response to me not paying for something. He has then gone and paid £40 to stay in a hotel tonight as he “can’t stand living in a crack den”. I also saw a letter that he owes a phone company over £1000 today but he doesn’t seem to care about that either. I have decided not to worry about that. I really appreciate all of the replies that tell me to stop helping him. It gives me so much strength. I wish I was a much tougher person, before the last 4 years I was lucky that I had no one in my family who behaved like my son. I had no idea how to handle the situation at all and my whole experience of family was to help each other out no matter what. I’m trying really hard to change my attitude towards him. I’m so glad I found this site - such valuable, caring advice from people who have been through this. [/QUOTE]
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