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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 760265" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>New Leaf, I don't understand this part. What is this "current rule" that you speak of that would preclude Hoku from taking the baby? This sounds insane to me. Where I live I am under the impression that the County seeks primarily and first to place babies with extended family, as they have sought to do with you? Why not Hoku? Would Tornado go along with this? </p><p></p><p>At the same time, ksm raises a valid point, that the baby may be better off where Tornado can't get to him. But there is the recognition that children do better with capable and loving extended birth family members, than with stranger adoption, as was the case with my son.</p><p></p><p>My son has only had anger and resentment to his birth parents, and never expressed yearning. He felt abandoned. But blames them. He has shown no interest in being involved with his birth family, including siblings. In our case he has fully loved and accepted me as his mother and his family. What happens though, is I am the only one he can target. I think he knows it's inappropriate to project all of this onto me, but he can't really (yet) help himself. I am writing this because I want you to know that should the baby be adopted out, somebody will love him like I have loved my son all of these years.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 760265, member: 18958"] New Leaf, I don't understand this part. What is this "current rule" that you speak of that would preclude Hoku from taking the baby? This sounds insane to me. Where I live I am under the impression that the County seeks primarily and first to place babies with extended family, as they have sought to do with you? Why not Hoku? Would Tornado go along with this? At the same time, ksm raises a valid point, that the baby may be better off where Tornado can't get to him. But there is the recognition that children do better with capable and loving extended birth family members, than with stranger adoption, as was the case with my son. My son has only had anger and resentment to his birth parents, and never expressed yearning. He felt abandoned. But blames them. He has shown no interest in being involved with his birth family, including siblings. In our case he has fully loved and accepted me as his mother and his family. What happens though, is I am the only one he can target. I think he knows it's inappropriate to project all of this onto me, but he can't really (yet) help himself. I am writing this because I want you to know that should the baby be adopted out, somebody will love him like I have loved my son all of these years. [/QUOTE]
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