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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 760270" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>A strong argument can be made that by taking responsibility for her baby, and by not having boundaries about your home and life, you would be enabling your daughter; and enabling her continuing poor choices. She has already made choices that have made inevitable the birth of this child. There is no amount of your continued suffering that can alter what has already been done. It is reality and it is fact. No suffering by you can change it. T</p><p></p><p>The child's circumstances, right now, have been set by his mother's past choices and her present ones. At any moment she could set into motion another reality for him, for her, and for her other children. She does not. She has the capacity. It takes just one decision. Then another. Then another. Just like for the rest of us. Even with IV Meth use, there is over a 15 percent recovery rate. *I think it's around that; I read it within the year.</p><p></p><p>I just checked. It's about that. That means 12 to 15 percent of people have not relapsed at all in a 3 year period. But about 60 percent of people go a year without relapse. That's with treatment. And we know that relapse is a part of recovery. That means that these people can and do get themselves back on the wagon. New Leaf. Every single day people decide to change. You know this. M was an alcoholic for 40 years. He began to drink at 15. And then one day, he stopped. And never drank again. </p><p></p><p>We get so beaten down by our situations we forget to breathe. Right now is that time for you. You are HELPING your daughter by being strong. By having limits. By giving her the opportunity and the space to step up to help herself. I believe this with all of my heart.</p><p></p><p></p><p>That seems small, but it's not. That means people with habits of 10, 15, 20, 30 years stop. One day they stop. I think this is a world of hope. I see these people every day in my town which is on an international drug transit route. We were decimated by meth in the 90's. Now we are not. These people stopped. Your daughter can too. I wish you could hold onto this reality. This is not your fault. None of it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 760270, member: 18958"] A strong argument can be made that by taking responsibility for her baby, and by not having boundaries about your home and life, you would be enabling your daughter; and enabling her continuing poor choices. She has already made choices that have made inevitable the birth of this child. There is no amount of your continued suffering that can alter what has already been done. It is reality and it is fact. No suffering by you can change it. T The child's circumstances, right now, have been set by his mother's past choices and her present ones. At any moment she could set into motion another reality for him, for her, and for her other children. She does not. She has the capacity. It takes just one decision. Then another. Then another. Just like for the rest of us. Even with IV Meth use, there is over a 15 percent recovery rate. *I think it's around that; I read it within the year. I just checked. It's about that. That means 12 to 15 percent of people have not relapsed at all in a 3 year period. But about 60 percent of people go a year without relapse. That's with treatment. And we know that relapse is a part of recovery. That means that these people can and do get themselves back on the wagon. New Leaf. Every single day people decide to change. You know this. M was an alcoholic for 40 years. He began to drink at 15. And then one day, he stopped. And never drank again. We get so beaten down by our situations we forget to breathe. Right now is that time for you. You are HELPING your daughter by being strong. By having limits. By giving her the opportunity and the space to step up to help herself. I believe this with all of my heart. That seems small, but it's not. That means people with habits of 10, 15, 20, 30 years stop. One day they stop. I think this is a world of hope. I see these people every day in my town which is on an international drug transit route. We were decimated by meth in the 90's. Now we are not. These people stopped. Your daughter can too. I wish you could hold onto this reality. This is not your fault. None of it. [/QUOTE]
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