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<blockquote data-quote="MissLulu" data-source="post: 760343" data-attributes="member: 24721"><p>New Leaf,</p><p>Just wanted to let you know I'm still here and following your story and sending my best. I have been very busy this week and haven't had a chance to write long replies, but I'm still thinking of you.</p><p></p><p>I'm glad to hear that you are retiring. That will be one less thing on your plate, and you have such a lot at the moment. I think the pandemic has changed the way lots of us think about things. We have just placed our house on the market and will move to the country later this year. (We live in a seaside town, which is smallish but growing.) We're doing this so my husband can retire. We are still both relatively young (he's 54) and we had planned for him to work until sixty, but he hates his job, has to travel a lot with it and is stressed all the time. I'm worried for him. That stress, coupled with the stress of our Difficult Child is becoming too much. We're leaving in search of a simpler life. I work from home and don't plan on retiring but nevertheless I think our pace of live will slow and I'm glad of that. It will be a stretch for us financially (which might help me to say no to Difficult Child when he next wants something!) but even though we will be financially worse off, I think it will be worth it. I'm sure it will be for you too.</p><p></p><p>Sorry to hear the baby is so distressed, but he will eventually thrive with Hoku's loving care. This transition stage is difficult, but it will pass and he will be so much better for it. If Tornado is not distressed enough by the separation to be seeking him out, I think that shows it is the best decision for all. She's clearly not in a place where she is capable of caring for another human being and needs to focus on herself. </p><p></p><p>I hope you can do the same - focus on keeping yourself well for the rest of the family, for Hoku who needs your love and moral support and for your granddaughter, and most importantly for you. You deserve some peace and happiness in your life.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="MissLulu, post: 760343, member: 24721"] New Leaf, Just wanted to let you know I'm still here and following your story and sending my best. I have been very busy this week and haven't had a chance to write long replies, but I'm still thinking of you. I'm glad to hear that you are retiring. That will be one less thing on your plate, and you have such a lot at the moment. I think the pandemic has changed the way lots of us think about things. We have just placed our house on the market and will move to the country later this year. (We live in a seaside town, which is smallish but growing.) We're doing this so my husband can retire. We are still both relatively young (he's 54) and we had planned for him to work until sixty, but he hates his job, has to travel a lot with it and is stressed all the time. I'm worried for him. That stress, coupled with the stress of our Difficult Child is becoming too much. We're leaving in search of a simpler life. I work from home and don't plan on retiring but nevertheless I think our pace of live will slow and I'm glad of that. It will be a stretch for us financially (which might help me to say no to Difficult Child when he next wants something!) but even though we will be financially worse off, I think it will be worth it. I'm sure it will be for you too. Sorry to hear the baby is so distressed, but he will eventually thrive with Hoku's loving care. This transition stage is difficult, but it will pass and he will be so much better for it. If Tornado is not distressed enough by the separation to be seeking him out, I think that shows it is the best decision for all. She's clearly not in a place where she is capable of caring for another human being and needs to focus on herself. I hope you can do the same - focus on keeping yourself well for the rest of the family, for Hoku who needs your love and moral support and for your granddaughter, and most importantly for you. You deserve some peace and happiness in your life. [/QUOTE]
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