And I'm so full of schadenfreude (it's odd that you don't have your own, authentic word for this basic emotion in English) that I just have to share my mirth with you. My husband's granny, who spends her winters in Southern Europe because the weather, has been a widow a long time. Last three years, to my knowledge, could be a little longer, she has had a gentleman friend from the country she spends her winters. They have their separate condos in same building but spend most of their time living together. Somehow no one has remembered to mention my mother in law about this gentleman friend her mother in law has. So she has been robbed from the opportunity to be scandalized and worry about her mother in law's money. But now husband's granny is taking her man with her to visit home, so no hiding the fact from mother in law. And mother in law is seriously scandalized. She thinks husband's granny is going senile, thinks it's indecent, thinks that this guy is trying to rob granny's money etc. And she certainly isn't approving. We just came home from dinner with my in-laws and my difficult child certainly wasn't making it better. mother in law can't understand how we others have known about the granny's friend and even met him and no one has told her and wanted to know everything about him. difficult child was happy to help and told freely about the guy (difficult child has met him twice and heard about him from his great-granny.) difficult child certainly does have mother in law's number and he really knew what to tell her. He didn't exactly lie, he was just choosing truths carefully. So now mother in law is totally beside herself because some younger boytoy gigolo is conning Granny money that should go to her (if granny would just understand to go on and die like people should do in her age.) Granny's gentleman friend is indeed around decade younger than granny, but as she says, when you hit your nineties, to find a guy who is not senile or in diapers, you just have to go cradlerobbing. And indeed he is Southern European. And also a widower and able to support himself just fine. They are not planning marriage because they don't want legal or financial ties and make their estates messy, but they enjoy each others company and are very happy they have found a new love in their elderly days. I can't wait them coming. Not only I'm waiting seeing Granny who is one cool chick and whom I adore, I'm also waiting a showdown between her and my mother in law. I have no doubts that Granny will be able to put mother in law to her place very swiftly. And that is something I will not want to miss in a million years.