Hound dog
Nana's are Beautiful
Like I needed another one in my life. 
I find myself cringing when she calls and avoiding going to see her. Awful, I know. And I feel plenty guilty about it, I assure you. But still......sigh. It's awfully hard to face her these days.
This is NOT the woman I've known for the past 26 yrs. She's gone totally full blown difficult child. She's got herself worked up into a constant state of high anxiety/nerves and she's crowding a nervous breakdown big time. She's losing weight because she "can't eat". She sits all day and stews/worries about the house selling and running out of money. Literally wringing her hands. She cries. She calls us and cries, she cries when we come and see her. She can talk about nothing else but the house. NOTHING. Well, except the fact she is running out of money.
Last time I saw her she was in such an agitated state I came so very close to telling her to just s uck it up already and get a grip. (my grandma is turning over in her grave as I type that part)
But good grief, there is NO consoling her, no distracting her, no cheering her up. I give her an inch, she wants me every second of the day. I understand where she is coming from, seriously I do. But OMG I do not know how much more of it I can take.
I'm an awful daughter in law.
I'm telling you now though........
If this is what happens to people who have never truly known adversity in their lives........Heck, I'm glad I had more than my fair share, at least I can face homelessness, bill collectors, and worse without completely falling apart at the seams and becoming totally unable to function.
I've given her back the responsibility of paying her own bills. I'm hoping it might help, and quite frankly......it is a nitemare to attempt to keep track of her zillion of bills ontop of our monthly bills.
She still won't talk to sister in law. She has decided somehow sister in law is to blame. Neither sister in law nor I can really figure out how this is supposed to be, but there is no convincing her otherwise. A shame because sister in law has always treated mother in law wonderfully. They were very close before this.
To make matters worse, now that GM has filed for bankruptcy her stock is worthless. husband can't dump it. No one will touch it. She held on to it too long. sigh So now she's having a field day with that one as well. She's been harrassing us for a week. Which I put it all on husband as this is the crunch time before finals. He had a (sarcastic) wonderful time tonight attempting to explain to her why no one would buy it.
And now she keeps talking about going home. I'm surprised she's even talking to me cuz everytime she does I firmly tell her that in no way in hades will she ever go home again, whether it sells or not. It is impossible for her to manuver around her house in the wheelchair. She knows that.
Like I said, it's the crunch before finals so I didn't go see her over the weekend as usual. I've got several huge projects that need to be done that I'm working on. husband went but that wasn't good enough. It was probably mean but everytime she called I made husband talk to her. This only agitated her more. Tonight he handed the phone to me and walked away. And I swear she was in such a state I haven't a clue as to what she was talking about. husband had snuck off to bed so I didn't get to chew him out for handing me the phone. I was in the middle of a take home test for micro. grrrr
If that house doesn't sell soon I'M going to loose my mind.
Whew. Thanks. Now maybe I can sleep.
I find myself cringing when she calls and avoiding going to see her. Awful, I know. And I feel plenty guilty about it, I assure you. But still......sigh. It's awfully hard to face her these days.
This is NOT the woman I've known for the past 26 yrs. She's gone totally full blown difficult child. She's got herself worked up into a constant state of high anxiety/nerves and she's crowding a nervous breakdown big time. She's losing weight because she "can't eat". She sits all day and stews/worries about the house selling and running out of money. Literally wringing her hands. She cries. She calls us and cries, she cries when we come and see her. She can talk about nothing else but the house. NOTHING. Well, except the fact she is running out of money.
Last time I saw her she was in such an agitated state I came so very close to telling her to just s uck it up already and get a grip. (my grandma is turning over in her grave as I type that part)
But good grief, there is NO consoling her, no distracting her, no cheering her up. I give her an inch, she wants me every second of the day. I understand where she is coming from, seriously I do. But OMG I do not know how much more of it I can take.
I'm an awful daughter in law.
I'm telling you now though........
If this is what happens to people who have never truly known adversity in their lives........Heck, I'm glad I had more than my fair share, at least I can face homelessness, bill collectors, and worse without completely falling apart at the seams and becoming totally unable to function.
I've given her back the responsibility of paying her own bills. I'm hoping it might help, and quite frankly......it is a nitemare to attempt to keep track of her zillion of bills ontop of our monthly bills.
She still won't talk to sister in law. She has decided somehow sister in law is to blame. Neither sister in law nor I can really figure out how this is supposed to be, but there is no convincing her otherwise. A shame because sister in law has always treated mother in law wonderfully. They were very close before this.
To make matters worse, now that GM has filed for bankruptcy her stock is worthless. husband can't dump it. No one will touch it. She held on to it too long. sigh So now she's having a field day with that one as well. She's been harrassing us for a week. Which I put it all on husband as this is the crunch time before finals. He had a (sarcastic) wonderful time tonight attempting to explain to her why no one would buy it.
And now she keeps talking about going home. I'm surprised she's even talking to me cuz everytime she does I firmly tell her that in no way in hades will she ever go home again, whether it sells or not. It is impossible for her to manuver around her house in the wheelchair. She knows that.
Like I said, it's the crunch before finals so I didn't go see her over the weekend as usual. I've got several huge projects that need to be done that I'm working on. husband went but that wasn't good enough. It was probably mean but everytime she called I made husband talk to her. This only agitated her more. Tonight he handed the phone to me and walked away. And I swear she was in such a state I haven't a clue as to what she was talking about. husband had snuck off to bed so I didn't get to chew him out for handing me the phone. I was in the middle of a take home test for micro. grrrr
If that house doesn't sell soon I'M going to loose my mind.
Whew. Thanks. Now maybe I can sleep.
