Hi all....sorry I have been out of circulatiin for a while! I had my first 2 chemo sessions.....and its horrible, but hanging in there for the kids sake! Please give me some advice on a mother in law matter: A few months ago I overheard a conversation between my mother in law and her brother....(she by accident phoned me on her cell and didnt notice it was on voicemail )....I overheard her saying the most horrible things about me......even that I try to shift my responsibbilities of looking after my kids on others ( I have NEVER left my kids with nobody, not even for 1 night....but she said this because I had a neck fusion and was looking for an aupair to help with transportation)! But infront of my hubby and others, she pretended for 20 years to love me to bits! She always told me I am her faviourite, how hard working I am , what a great mom I am, exct! All this she critisized in her conversation behind my back! When my hubby confronted her she this isnt true...I played hubby the voice mail...this hurt him so much...I met with her, had tea and long conversation.....I told her I will not be able to trust her again and wont be able to have a meaningfull relationship with her....but I will always respect and treat her well for my husbands and childrens sake....So she keeps on phoning me, wants to visit, exct. I didnt return her calls, maybe once or twice, because I cant see the meaning of more pretend...she wants to carry on as if nothing has happenend, still telling me how much she loves me exct. So last night she phoned my husband, told him that she gets the message that I am ignoring her, that she isnt wanted and that she is braking all ties with our family and will NEVER bother us again....My husband was very sad and upset! So I was thinking we need to go to her house today and sort this out? That I will tell her that she will not be able to have a relationship with me and that I cant trust her? But for the childrens sake and my husband sake, she must stay a part in the family? Please be honest, am I being to stuburn? What would you do in this situation? Ps...My children was very upset by her...oldest told me she told them I might die when I was in hospital! I want to confront her about this ass well!? Thanx for listening!