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Moved son out yesterday and am heartbroken
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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 748317" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Mom. This is serious:</p><p></p><p> </p><p></p><p>I will tell you what I think. </p><p></p><p>You need to get a restraining order to forbid him from coming near you. He could have killed you. You get a restraining order by going to the District Attorney.</p><p></p><p>All of us feel the kind of loss you feel. All of us feel the same guilt and responsibility. It's called: FOG. Fear, Obligation, Guilt. It goes with the territory.</p><p></p><p>You did not cause this.</p><p></p><p>Every time the police are called here, they believe my son over me. It's not just you.</p><p></p><p>The important thing, the very first thing, is to protect yourself. The next thing I would do (I wish I had done it sooner) is go to a 12 step group, such as Al Anon. There you will get support, learn to live from yourself, and how to set boundaries and to maintain them. You did not cause this. And you can't cure it.</p><p></p><p>I don't know what other substances your son may be using or whether he has some sort of impulse control disorder that permits him to act out. But it is very dangerous for both of you to permit these kinds of violent interactions to occur. If you were seriously hurt he would go to prison. Let alone the effects on you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 748317, member: 18958"] Mom. This is serious: I will tell you what I think. You need to get a restraining order to forbid him from coming near you. He could have killed you. You get a restraining order by going to the District Attorney. All of us feel the kind of loss you feel. All of us feel the same guilt and responsibility. It's called: FOG. Fear, Obligation, Guilt. It goes with the territory. You did not cause this. Every time the police are called here, they believe my son over me. It's not just you. The important thing, the very first thing, is to protect yourself. The next thing I would do (I wish I had done it sooner) is go to a 12 step group, such as Al Anon. There you will get support, learn to live from yourself, and how to set boundaries and to maintain them. You did not cause this. And you can't cure it. I don't know what other substances your son may be using or whether he has some sort of impulse control disorder that permits him to act out. But it is very dangerous for both of you to permit these kinds of violent interactions to occur. If you were seriously hurt he would go to prison. Let alone the effects on you. [/QUOTE]
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