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Moved son out yesterday and am heartbroken
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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 748324" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>I want to tell you what happened to me. I feel like a hippocrite. Because I did not do what I am advising you to do.</p><p></p><p>When my son was about 18 he broke my foot. He used a defensive martial arts move on me. I had not touched him but I was angry.</p><p></p><p>We were living in a foreign country and we had to leave because of what happened. It was a real blow to me.</p><p></p><p>I did not take this act on my son's part seriously. I was just mad and inconvenienced. I rationalized it, believing that he lacked the judgment to understand that what he did was so wrong. I believed that because he felt he acted defensively, it made a difference.</p><p></p><p>I was wrong. I was wrong because I did not put me at the center of things. I always put him first. I thought of his welfare. His needs.</p><p></p><p>What had happened to me was crushing. Only now, with this post, do I acknowledge how much.</p><p></p><p>It took me many, many years before I could think about my own welfare in relation to my son, let alone put it first. I wonder if even now I have the capacity to do so.</p><p></p><p>My son over a decade later is still floundering. Over and over again I tried to act in such a way that would help him mature, to right himself. I am wondering if I helped him at all.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 748324, member: 18958"] I want to tell you what happened to me. I feel like a hippocrite. Because I did not do what I am advising you to do. When my son was about 18 he broke my foot. He used a defensive martial arts move on me. I had not touched him but I was angry. We were living in a foreign country and we had to leave because of what happened. It was a real blow to me. I did not take this act on my son's part seriously. I was just mad and inconvenienced. I rationalized it, believing that he lacked the judgment to understand that what he did was so wrong. I believed that because he felt he acted defensively, it made a difference. I was wrong. I was wrong because I did not put me at the center of things. I always put him first. I thought of his welfare. His needs. What had happened to me was crushing. Only now, with this post, do I acknowledge how much. It took me many, many years before I could think about my own welfare in relation to my son, let alone put it first. I wonder if even now I have the capacity to do so. My son over a decade later is still floundering. Over and over again I tried to act in such a way that would help him mature, to right himself. I am wondering if I helped him at all. [/QUOTE]
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