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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 683864" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>This is on your son. She didnt make him an addict and if he relapses its his fault, not hers or anyone elses. That means he's still into drugs or he wouldn't still be into her. Clean folks, or those who want to be, do not love drug addicts romantically. Dont let him or her bring you down. She is not the reason he is a drug addict or if he leaves treatment. She is a symptom of his addiction. You, in some way, talked him into rehab, but he is not committed to it or he would not try to boss you around or threaten to leave or, in other words, talk and behave and threaten like an addict. Nobody forced him to use drugs at gunpoint. He decided this.</p><p></p><p>No matter what you do, he has a drug addict for a girlfriend. This is his decision. He isnt ready to cut ties with the drug world. You cant force it.</p><p></p><p>Right now in my opinion you best take care of yourself. Do not talk to your son anymore about her in my opinion. It will just upset you and make you feel unecessary guilt. And cost you money which in the end won't help either of them.</p><p></p><p>Its time to stand strong in my opinion. They need to respect us and to see that we are strong people, not their slaves or people to abuse. It is good for them to be unable to manipulate us. This helps them realize they have to stand on their own. With no rescue person, they are less apt to enjoy their drug usage, which leaves them homeless, destitute, and miserable. Rescuing hurts their motivation to recover.</p><p></p><p>Sending you good wishes and hope you can do this.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 683864, member: 1550"] This is on your son. She didnt make him an addict and if he relapses its his fault, not hers or anyone elses. That means he's still into drugs or he wouldn't still be into her. Clean folks, or those who want to be, do not love drug addicts romantically. Dont let him or her bring you down. She is not the reason he is a drug addict or if he leaves treatment. She is a symptom of his addiction. You, in some way, talked him into rehab, but he is not committed to it or he would not try to boss you around or threaten to leave or, in other words, talk and behave and threaten like an addict. Nobody forced him to use drugs at gunpoint. He decided this. No matter what you do, he has a drug addict for a girlfriend. This is his decision. He isnt ready to cut ties with the drug world. You cant force it. Right now in my opinion you best take care of yourself. Do not talk to your son anymore about her in my opinion. It will just upset you and make you feel unecessary guilt. And cost you money which in the end won't help either of them. Its time to stand strong in my opinion. They need to respect us and to see that we are strong people, not their slaves or people to abuse. It is good for them to be unable to manipulate us. This helps them realize they have to stand on their own. With no rescue person, they are less apt to enjoy their drug usage, which leaves them homeless, destitute, and miserable. Rescuing hurts their motivation to recover. Sending you good wishes and hope you can do this. [/QUOTE]
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