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Moving from FOO (Family of Origin) to trauma healing: Best book for anyone tramatized, even kids.
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 658274" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Your welcome. I'm on a different path now. Life is so surprising...lol.</p><p></p><p>Yet the new path is due to all the old issues, which are not confined just to home. I had more trauma as well, such a being bullied at school and often at work. I have disabilities and always have that my entire FOO invalidated. A lot of PTSD is about validation or lack of. You wonder if you ARE crazy or whiny or just "looking for attention." That was another big one with E. Yep, that's me. LOOKING FOR ATTENTION. The one who choose to sit in the last seat in school so nobody noticed me. The one who hides in the bathroom at parties, if I can even convince myself I have to go to them. The one who is happiest at home. I"m just an attention whore!!! LOL.</p><p></p><p>I have learned there is a difference between acting out when baited and having a personality disorder or being an attention whore. My ex-mother seemed to think I loved to be the center of attention. Not at all. I like to be left alone and always have. I can be very friendly if I know the people and feel safe, but those places have always been few and far etween.</p><p></p><p>I was their flesh and blood (I hate those words) but none of them knew me or know. A lot of w hat everyone thinks is what E. told them. But I won't heal if I focus on that. It is what it is. I'm sure nobody but my FOO thought I was an attention seeker.</p><p></p><p>The accumulation of everything caused the PTSD.</p><p></p><p>I highly recommend using the tools you and I both learned because I had the tools in my head, but wasn't doing them. THAT does a lot of good...lol.</p><p></p><p>The difference between now and when I started this journey a few months ago after my memories were invalidated by my ex-siblings, is that I no longer care. I learned to let them have THEIR memories and to move on because they are both triggers for me. Even my poor dad, who has tried so hard to be kind to me, is a atrigger. Anything related to my FOO is a trigger. Why else did I throw out my childhood baby book and all the pictures? I am not sure what I was thinking when I did, but I know it was long, long ago and when I was really upset with FOO. I don't miss the book.</p><p></p><p>I also have lots of hidden memories from school and with certain jobs, but much more my school.</p><p></p><p>I have a lot of work to do. I'm sure we will touch base on E. and Thing 1 and 2 again, but there is so much more and I embrace healing.</p><p></p><p>I will keep reading your awesome posts and commenting if I feel I have anything helpful fo say! And, of course, there are those nasty relapses...</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 658274, member: 1550"] Your welcome. I'm on a different path now. Life is so surprising...lol. Yet the new path is due to all the old issues, which are not confined just to home. I had more trauma as well, such a being bullied at school and often at work. I have disabilities and always have that my entire FOO invalidated. A lot of PTSD is about validation or lack of. You wonder if you ARE crazy or whiny or just "looking for attention." That was another big one with E. Yep, that's me. LOOKING FOR ATTENTION. The one who choose to sit in the last seat in school so nobody noticed me. The one who hides in the bathroom at parties, if I can even convince myself I have to go to them. The one who is happiest at home. I"m just an attention whore!!! LOL. I have learned there is a difference between acting out when baited and having a personality disorder or being an attention whore. My ex-mother seemed to think I loved to be the center of attention. Not at all. I like to be left alone and always have. I can be very friendly if I know the people and feel safe, but those places have always been few and far etween. I was their flesh and blood (I hate those words) but none of them knew me or know. A lot of w hat everyone thinks is what E. told them. But I won't heal if I focus on that. It is what it is. I'm sure nobody but my FOO thought I was an attention seeker. The accumulation of everything caused the PTSD. I highly recommend using the tools you and I both learned because I had the tools in my head, but wasn't doing them. THAT does a lot of good...lol. The difference between now and when I started this journey a few months ago after my memories were invalidated by my ex-siblings, is that I no longer care. I learned to let them have THEIR memories and to move on because they are both triggers for me. Even my poor dad, who has tried so hard to be kind to me, is a atrigger. Anything related to my FOO is a trigger. Why else did I throw out my childhood baby book and all the pictures? I am not sure what I was thinking when I did, but I know it was long, long ago and when I was really upset with FOO. I don't miss the book. I also have lots of hidden memories from school and with certain jobs, but much more my school. I have a lot of work to do. I'm sure we will touch base on E. and Thing 1 and 2 again, but there is so much more and I embrace healing. I will keep reading your awesome posts and commenting if I feel I have anything helpful fo say! And, of course, there are those nasty relapses... [/QUOTE]
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