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Moving from FOO (Family of Origin) to trauma healing: Best book for anyone tramatized, even kids.
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<blockquote data-quote="allusedup" data-source="post: 660954" data-attributes="member: 19029"><p>I am new and have been surfing this site for a few months now. I take my hat off to all of you...for what you'be been through, for your wisdom, for your support of one another, and for having survived it all with grace.</p><p></p><p>About traumas, FOO issues and PTSD. I too, have been walking that road. It all started of course when I was a child. My mother thank God was my rock, but my father was verbally abusive to us kids and both verbally and physically abusive to my mother. I was the oldest of 3 kids, took care of my siblings, cleaned house and cooked. I learned to be co-dependent by the time I was 12. By 19, after begging my mother for years to leave him, telling her I would work to help support us, I couldn't take anymore. I eloped with a guy that was (you guessed it), worse than my father. He was verbally abusive and in the course of our 20 year marriage, called me everything but a white woman many, many times over. I worked 2 full time jobs because he wouldn't work at all. At the end I left because he had started on my son and his rages had escalated to the point that I thought he was going to kill me. Even after the divorce I continued to take care of him until his death 7 years ago. </p><p></p><p>So that's trauma # 1 and 2.</p><p></p><p># 3 was my job. I was an ICU and trauma nurse for 25 years. I saw every type of illness and injury known to man ( except Ebola thankfully). Such sad, sad cases. There were some cases that I cried about for months and will never forget. It also made me neurotic, I am afraid of everything. I went through a debilitating 10 year depression and by the grace of God ended last year. I am better mentally than I have been in a long time. </p><p>My healing is an ongoing process day by day. </p><p></p><p>My biggest worry now is my son and the effect his father had on him. He is on his second relationship with abusive women. This current one is borderline and a terrible mother to her 3 year old son. (From a previous marriage). She has already cheated on him in my sons house while he was out of town working. I have talked to him until I am blue in the face but of course it does no good. Any words of wisdom would be greatly appreciated.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="allusedup, post: 660954, member: 19029"] I am new and have been surfing this site for a few months now. I take my hat off to all of you...for what you'be been through, for your wisdom, for your support of one another, and for having survived it all with grace. About traumas, FOO issues and PTSD. I too, have been walking that road. It all started of course when I was a child. My mother thank God was my rock, but my father was verbally abusive to us kids and both verbally and physically abusive to my mother. I was the oldest of 3 kids, took care of my siblings, cleaned house and cooked. I learned to be co-dependent by the time I was 12. By 19, after begging my mother for years to leave him, telling her I would work to help support us, I couldn't take anymore. I eloped with a guy that was (you guessed it), worse than my father. He was verbally abusive and in the course of our 20 year marriage, called me everything but a white woman many, many times over. I worked 2 full time jobs because he wouldn't work at all. At the end I left because he had started on my son and his rages had escalated to the point that I thought he was going to kill me. Even after the divorce I continued to take care of him until his death 7 years ago. So that's trauma # 1 and 2. # 3 was my job. I was an ICU and trauma nurse for 25 years. I saw every type of illness and injury known to man ( except Ebola thankfully). Such sad, sad cases. There were some cases that I cried about for months and will never forget. It also made me neurotic, I am afraid of everything. I went through a debilitating 10 year depression and by the grace of God ended last year. I am better mentally than I have been in a long time. My healing is an ongoing process day by day. My biggest worry now is my son and the effect his father had on him. He is on his second relationship with abusive women. This current one is borderline and a terrible mother to her 3 year old son. (From a previous marriage). She has already cheated on him in my sons house while he was out of town working. I have talked to him until I am blue in the face but of course it does no good. Any words of wisdom would be greatly appreciated. [/QUOTE]
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