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<blockquote data-quote="Tanya M" data-source="post: 641205" data-attributes="member: 18516"><p>Physically moving will not aleviate the problems for you, your family or difficult child. My husband and I moved 1100 miles from my home state to the midwest to care for his aging parents. When we moved our difficult child was doing a 2 year stay in prison. When he was released I had naive illusions that if I flew out there to get him and bring him back here, give him a place to live (not with us), food, clothes, etc... and told him all he had to do was get a job and start living a responsible life, that all would be well. Notice I said naive illusions. It wasn't long before he was right back to lying, stealing, drugs, alcohol. He eventually made his way back to our home state and is currently homeless.</p><p> </p><p>As for how it impacts your parents and in-laws it doesn't matter if you move to the moon. One of the last conversations I had with my mom before she died was about my difficult child. My mom and dad lived in another state and I was telling my mom that difficult child had run away again, she said to me "you don't think he'll try to come here do you" that broke my heart. My mother passed away a few months later.</p><p>You of course have to do what you feel is best for you and your family but know there are people here that have been dealing with their difficult child's for many years, for me it's 20 years, my difficult child is almost 34.</p><p>Read through the posts here and learn from us.</p><p> </p><p>I wish you well and understand how hard this is for you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tanya M, post: 641205, member: 18516"] Physically moving will not aleviate the problems for you, your family or difficult child. My husband and I moved 1100 miles from my home state to the midwest to care for his aging parents. When we moved our difficult child was doing a 2 year stay in prison. When he was released I had naive illusions that if I flew out there to get him and bring him back here, give him a place to live (not with us), food, clothes, etc... and told him all he had to do was get a job and start living a responsible life, that all would be well. Notice I said naive illusions. It wasn't long before he was right back to lying, stealing, drugs, alcohol. He eventually made his way back to our home state and is currently homeless. As for how it impacts your parents and in-laws it doesn't matter if you move to the moon. One of the last conversations I had with my mom before she died was about my difficult child. My mom and dad lived in another state and I was telling my mom that difficult child had run away again, she said to me "you don't think he'll try to come here do you" that broke my heart. My mother passed away a few months later. You of course have to do what you feel is best for you and your family but know there are people here that have been dealing with their difficult child's for many years, for me it's 20 years, my difficult child is almost 34. Read through the posts here and learn from us. I wish you well and understand how hard this is for you. [/QUOTE]
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