Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
Moving toward grief and depression
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="Blindsided" data-source="post: 757443" data-attributes="member: 23811"><p>Beta, I understand your concern because our DCs have treated us very badly. I remember Josh's abuse because what you shared was similar to my experience. </p><p></p><p>My 41 y.o. Difficult Child is pregnant for the first time. Never thought possible, she is sober and putting the baby first. However, she hasn't been able to support herself, couch to couch, food stamps ... so my mind has visited that place. The baby dad is in the picture, but they are living with his parents. </p><p></p><p>I nearly lost myself to the dark abyss last year. All I could allow myself to do was kept in touch by sending a text emoji every couple of weeks to let her know I would be here when SHE takes responsibility. So about 8 weeks ago when I sent a short text, she responded she at the doctor because of bloating. (Knowing her liver was damaged, I was very anxious). She called; the reality was never on my list of possibilities when in such a dark place...</p><p></p><p> "Mom, I am pregnant!" </p><p></p><p>My point is we simply do not know the future. For this period of time I am chosing to continue to Let go and Let God, accept I can only change me, and I am going to enjoy every moment I can. I feel I can do this because I am better prepared to handle a lot because I have seen how boundaries give me strength.</p><p></p><p>I had to get out of her way. I let her use me as a punching bag. It wasnt until I came here that I learned the difference between helping and enabling. </p><p></p><p>I dont know how you could better prepare Josh to succeed, if he doesnt, that's up to him, if he does, he learns he can. Maybe he needs to try to prove to himself he can do it. </p><p></p><p></p><p>I see this as good news. You have raised him to be a responsible adult. Our children live in other states too. We bought a second home back in our hometown to see two of our children and grandkids. Last season, we saw them twice and one grandson not at all. </p><p></p><p>All I know for certain is that what we think might happen is driven by emotions, not reality. </p><p></p><p>As for help moving, I totally understand. We are in our early 70's. My sister found day help loading in one state and unloading at their destination state. I believe they were recommended by UHaul.</p><p></p><p>Keep us posted. I have wondered how things were going. Safe travels.</p><p></p><p>"Unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward."</p><p>Steve Maraboli, <a href="https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/17905943-unapologetically-you" target="_blank">Unapologetically You: Reflections on Life and the Human Experience</a></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Blindsided, post: 757443, member: 23811"] Beta, I understand your concern because our DCs have treated us very badly. I remember Josh's abuse because what you shared was similar to my experience. My 41 y.o. Difficult Child is pregnant for the first time. Never thought possible, she is sober and putting the baby first. However, she hasn't been able to support herself, couch to couch, food stamps ... so my mind has visited that place. The baby dad is in the picture, but they are living with his parents. I nearly lost myself to the dark abyss last year. All I could allow myself to do was kept in touch by sending a text emoji every couple of weeks to let her know I would be here when SHE takes responsibility. So about 8 weeks ago when I sent a short text, she responded she at the doctor because of bloating. (Knowing her liver was damaged, I was very anxious). She called; the reality was never on my list of possibilities when in such a dark place... "Mom, I am pregnant!" My point is we simply do not know the future. For this period of time I am chosing to continue to Let go and Let God, accept I can only change me, and I am going to enjoy every moment I can. I feel I can do this because I am better prepared to handle a lot because I have seen how boundaries give me strength. I had to get out of her way. I let her use me as a punching bag. It wasnt until I came here that I learned the difference between helping and enabling. I dont know how you could better prepare Josh to succeed, if he doesnt, that's up to him, if he does, he learns he can. Maybe he needs to try to prove to himself he can do it. I see this as good news. You have raised him to be a responsible adult. Our children live in other states too. We bought a second home back in our hometown to see two of our children and grandkids. Last season, we saw them twice and one grandson not at all. All I know for certain is that what we think might happen is driven by emotions, not reality. As for help moving, I totally understand. We are in our early 70's. My sister found day help loading in one state and unloading at their destination state. I believe they were recommended by UHaul. Keep us posted. I have wondered how things were going. Safe travels. "Unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward." Steve Maraboli, [URL='https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/17905943-unapologetically-you']Unapologetically You: Reflections on Life and the Human Experience[/URL] [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
Moving toward grief and depression
Top