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Multiple traffic tickets and maybe needs an attorney--any advice?
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<blockquote data-quote="Rannveig" data-source="post: 666843" data-attributes="member: 5689"><p>I feel for your son. Good for him that he has a job, and truly tough for him that it's not accessible by public transportation. I don't think you should blame yourself so much for trying to help him. It sounds like it was the most constructive thing to do at the time, and both of you had good intentions. Unfortunately, it sounds like your son has some issues with self-regulation, and they manifest in dangerous driving. So yeah, probably best to take the car away at this point (will there be any other way for him to get to work, though?!). It's not a question of punishing your son. It truly sounds like he meant well but doesn't have great executive functioning. So taking the car away is just a natural consequence: it is no longer affordable. Maybe in another couple of years you can try again.</p><p></p><p>I'm not sure about hiring an attorney. Traffic lawyers just skeeve me out, frankly. If I were in your place, I would research online about most effective ways of getting out of trouble on moving violations. Of course, it depends on the judge, but often a big show of being contrite seems to do as much for a person as whatever hackneyed arguments a lawyer would make. Then again, a lawyer well known and respected to a judge and who knows how to plead something out could be worth his/her fee. So it depends...but from what you've told us here I don't think a lawyer sounds like a good investment.</p><p></p><p>Again, though, please don't put yourself down. There are no right answers -- only our abiding love for our struggling children.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Rannveig, post: 666843, member: 5689"] I feel for your son. Good for him that he has a job, and truly tough for him that it's not accessible by public transportation. I don't think you should blame yourself so much for trying to help him. It sounds like it was the most constructive thing to do at the time, and both of you had good intentions. Unfortunately, it sounds like your son has some issues with self-regulation, and they manifest in dangerous driving. So yeah, probably best to take the car away at this point (will there be any other way for him to get to work, though?!). It's not a question of punishing your son. It truly sounds like he meant well but doesn't have great executive functioning. So taking the car away is just a natural consequence: it is no longer affordable. Maybe in another couple of years you can try again. I'm not sure about hiring an attorney. Traffic lawyers just skeeve me out, frankly. If I were in your place, I would research online about most effective ways of getting out of trouble on moving violations. Of course, it depends on the judge, but often a big show of being contrite seems to do as much for a person as whatever hackneyed arguments a lawyer would make. Then again, a lawyer well known and respected to a judge and who knows how to plead something out could be worth his/her fee. So it depends...but from what you've told us here I don't think a lawyer sounds like a good investment. Again, though, please don't put yourself down. There are no right answers -- only our abiding love for our struggling children. [/QUOTE]
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