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my 18 year old has been smoking pot since he was 14 and it has taken control of him
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<blockquote data-quote="Calamity Jane" data-source="post: 629118" data-attributes="member: 13882"><p>Hi and welcome. I'm sure you'll find a lot of great advice here.</p><p> </p><p>Just a few observations from my own experience, and maybe a question or two for you.</p><p> </p><p>My son started smoking pot and drinking at app. age 15. He would wait till we were asleep, and then leave the house. His grades suffered terribly; prior to pot use, he was a straight A student, he held a great job where he was treated like a son by the owner/proprietor. My son burned so many bridges at that time. He wanted to do what he wanted, even if it was going to destroy him. So many kids can smoke pot frequently, yet still maintain good grades, work, and go on to college. Some, like my son, ruined what should've been the best years of his life with a drug that is practically legal, and I felt like I was hitting my head against the wall.</p><p>The only things that helped were natural consequences he suffered because of his choices (he lost his coveted job, and lost the respect of his boss, who was like family), and we found a really good adolescent shrink who, after a while, was able to reach our son in a way that we just couldn't. Pot smoking often stunts emotional growth, so as long as they're smoking, they don't see a problem.</p><p>My questions: It seems like he was dealing as well as using. If that is the case, and you are aware of that fact, I believe you can face serious charges if he's conducting business/keeping scales, money, etc. in your house. You have a right to keep that out of your home, and away from your other child. Also, what are his plans for college? Is he going away or staying local, or is he planning to get a full time job?</p><p> </p><p>Your son is clearly not stupid, but he will continue to exploit every opportunity (your recent separation, summer off, etc.) to do what he wants until he gets enlightened, or until consequences catch up to him.</p><p> </p><p>I'm so sorry, I've been exactly where you are, and it's so hard.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Calamity Jane, post: 629118, member: 13882"] Hi and welcome. I'm sure you'll find a lot of great advice here. Just a few observations from my own experience, and maybe a question or two for you. My son started smoking pot and drinking at app. age 15. He would wait till we were asleep, and then leave the house. His grades suffered terribly; prior to pot use, he was a straight A student, he held a great job where he was treated like a son by the owner/proprietor. My son burned so many bridges at that time. He wanted to do what he wanted, even if it was going to destroy him. So many kids can smoke pot frequently, yet still maintain good grades, work, and go on to college. Some, like my son, ruined what should've been the best years of his life with a drug that is practically legal, and I felt like I was hitting my head against the wall. The only things that helped were natural consequences he suffered because of his choices (he lost his coveted job, and lost the respect of his boss, who was like family), and we found a really good adolescent shrink who, after a while, was able to reach our son in a way that we just couldn't. Pot smoking often stunts emotional growth, so as long as they're smoking, they don't see a problem. My questions: It seems like he was dealing as well as using. If that is the case, and you are aware of that fact, I believe you can face serious charges if he's conducting business/keeping scales, money, etc. in your house. You have a right to keep that out of your home, and away from your other child. Also, what are his plans for college? Is he going away or staying local, or is he planning to get a full time job? Your son is clearly not stupid, but he will continue to exploit every opportunity (your recent separation, summer off, etc.) to do what he wants until he gets enlightened, or until consequences catch up to him. I'm so sorry, I've been exactly where you are, and it's so hard. [/QUOTE]
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