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My 19 year old son is threatening suicide because he said he is sick of even being here
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 719541" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Wow. Lots of drama. Welcome to the forum.</p><p></p><p>I cant address most of this (no time) but you are with husband to be #3. These many men are hard for our kids, adults or not. I have no idea why your fiance is in charge of whom your son spends the night with. Why does he care??? He is not this young mans father and I never let my second husband make the rules for my kids. Now, 23 years later everyone gets along well including my first and second husband. But i never let my second hub, then love of my life, walk in and start playing authority figure to my kids.</p><p></p><p>I am not against kids living together. I did it with second husband, you are doing it with new fiance, and have no clue why your son is suddenly not allowed to spend the night with his girlfriend. They are going to have sex anyway. I am not liking fiance throwing his weight around when he is living with you and unrelated to your son. I find it a red flag for a need to control and you had one of those already.</p><p></p><p>Is this fiance also a controlling man? Did you give yourself time to heal from both relationships before agreeing to marry again?</p><p></p><p>Im worried about you as well as your son. No doubt he has been through a lot, and I am not usually lenient on young adults negative behavior, but he...and you...need to find a way to peace. I hope your fiance is truly a good man who knows he is not here to boss anyone around. </p><p></p><p>Meanwhile i would encourage son to get therapy and i feel you would benefit from it too. This situation is very complicated for all.</p><p></p><p>One thing for sure between you and son...you cant fix his problems for him. You have many issues. Do get help.</p><p></p><p>More later. Good luck.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 719541, member: 1550"] Wow. Lots of drama. Welcome to the forum. I cant address most of this (no time) but you are with husband to be #3. These many men are hard for our kids, adults or not. I have no idea why your fiance is in charge of whom your son spends the night with. Why does he care??? He is not this young mans father and I never let my second husband make the rules for my kids. Now, 23 years later everyone gets along well including my first and second husband. But i never let my second hub, then love of my life, walk in and start playing authority figure to my kids. I am not against kids living together. I did it with second husband, you are doing it with new fiance, and have no clue why your son is suddenly not allowed to spend the night with his girlfriend. They are going to have sex anyway. I am not liking fiance throwing his weight around when he is living with you and unrelated to your son. I find it a red flag for a need to control and you had one of those already. Is this fiance also a controlling man? Did you give yourself time to heal from both relationships before agreeing to marry again? Im worried about you as well as your son. No doubt he has been through a lot, and I am not usually lenient on young adults negative behavior, but he...and you...need to find a way to peace. I hope your fiance is truly a good man who knows he is not here to boss anyone around. Meanwhile i would encourage son to get therapy and i feel you would benefit from it too. This situation is very complicated for all. One thing for sure between you and son...you cant fix his problems for him. You have many issues. Do get help. More later. Good luck. [/QUOTE]
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