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My 19 year old son is threatening suicide because he said he is sick of even being here
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 719562" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I think the son needs to get camper elsewhere. Your fiance being brought up strict is no real explanation why your son has to listen to him without a logical reason. Yes, its his property so I feel son should move off of unreasonale fiances property for his own sake.</p><p></p><p>Fiance sounds inflexible. Red flag. Sorry. He can live with you, but son cant have girlfriend over? I call B.S. on that. Hypocrisy. Young people dislike hypocrisy. It is also hypocritical of YOU to live with this man yet to tell son that his girlfriend cant stay over with him. Dont you see?</p><p></p><p>Your son is troubled and fragile. He needs to move to a better spot, get into therapy, and move forward...get a job. You should not have to pay for his existence. He is old enough to work or apply for government services...welare and foid assistance. Why wont he get full time work? He is able bodied? If so he can at least flip burgers FULL TIME. McD's offers benefits.</p><p></p><p> If he has a baby, and he already almost did, you need to make it clear you cant support a family of three. Tell him before it happens. Is girlfriend on birth control? If not, why not? They would expect you to pay for a baby, wouldnt they? Tell him and mean that you will not. That this is his respondibility. He needs to get indepedent of you. He is a young adult now, not a child. He needs to know that you are a Mother now, not a Mommy. There is a difference.</p><p></p><p>I am not liking fiance, he who has no explanation for girlfriend ban and is hypocritical. This further advice is my .02 and for you. You may discard it if you feel it is not good feedback.</p><p></p><p>For you: I would get into therapy before you commit to this man, maybe see why you feel a need to have a man in your life. You in my opinion need to grow alone first. A guy who is 50 yet still mimicking his own childhood with strictness plus inflexibility...please get help before you go forward. He could cause further trouble for your son. And for you. Get therapy for yourself. Please. Maybe go on your own for a while...see if you can learn to enjoy your own company.</p><p></p><p>Well, this forum encourages all of us to take what we need and leave the rest. So this is just my opinion.</p><p></p><p> I wish you the very best.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 719562, member: 1550"] I think the son needs to get camper elsewhere. Your fiance being brought up strict is no real explanation why your son has to listen to him without a logical reason. Yes, its his property so I feel son should move off of unreasonale fiances property for his own sake. Fiance sounds inflexible. Red flag. Sorry. He can live with you, but son cant have girlfriend over? I call B.S. on that. Hypocrisy. Young people dislike hypocrisy. It is also hypocritical of YOU to live with this man yet to tell son that his girlfriend cant stay over with him. Dont you see? Your son is troubled and fragile. He needs to move to a better spot, get into therapy, and move forward...get a job. You should not have to pay for his existence. He is old enough to work or apply for government services...welare and foid assistance. Why wont he get full time work? He is able bodied? If so he can at least flip burgers FULL TIME. McD's offers benefits. If he has a baby, and he already almost did, you need to make it clear you cant support a family of three. Tell him before it happens. Is girlfriend on birth control? If not, why not? They would expect you to pay for a baby, wouldnt they? Tell him and mean that you will not. That this is his respondibility. He needs to get indepedent of you. He is a young adult now, not a child. He needs to know that you are a Mother now, not a Mommy. There is a difference. I am not liking fiance, he who has no explanation for girlfriend ban and is hypocritical. This further advice is my .02 and for you. You may discard it if you feel it is not good feedback. For you: I would get into therapy before you commit to this man, maybe see why you feel a need to have a man in your life. You in my opinion need to grow alone first. A guy who is 50 yet still mimicking his own childhood with strictness plus inflexibility...please get help before you go forward. He could cause further trouble for your son. And for you. Get therapy for yourself. Please. Maybe go on your own for a while...see if you can learn to enjoy your own company. Well, this forum encourages all of us to take what we need and leave the rest. So this is just my opinion. I wish you the very best. [/QUOTE]
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