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My 19 yr old stopped his depression/adhd medications...
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<blockquote data-quote="LostSoul1" data-source="post: 675420" data-attributes="member: 19755"><p>Here we go again! So my son got released from the mental health unit just this past Monday (the 21st of Dec). He had spent the weekend with me as well as he had gotten a 'pass' - deemed to be safe to be out in the community after his suicide attempt a few weeks ago where he overdosed on some medications. </p><p></p><p>We agreed on the weekend he would come and stay with me while he goes to his mental health program that starts on Jan 6, 2015. Since getting there by bus would take him 1.5 hrs minimum and i didn't want to risk him not going etc. I also indicated i would ensure to check he is attending all the sessions. i agreed to drop him off in the morning providing we leave the house by no later than 6:30am...after which i would go to work. He would then take the bus back to my house.</p><p></p><p>I told him i would support him while he goes thru this program, and hopefully with the help of the counselling, therapy, etc, his mental state will improve. After which he would look at finishing school and hopefully getting a job. I said he could stay as long as he wanted, or he could look into other living arrangements after he finished his counselling program. In the meantime he could go on the waiting list for housing etc. We also reviewed the rules for him staying at my place - 1) Needs to attend the Therapy sessions in January (all of them) 2) Needs to Keep his area in the basement clean, bedroom tidy, clean up after himself 3) NOT to use the stove/oven during the day (as he once practically burned my kitchen down on a couple of occasions). </p><p>4) Around bed times, we agreed, during work nites bedtime is n 10:30pm. I have sleep issues and am easily awakened by noise. I also start early in the am for work ie. 7-8 am. 5) I would administer his medications - which i would leave for him for the am and then take his medications at nite for pm. When his program commenced in Jan, we agreed we would then need to be up by 6 am. On non-work nites ie. holidays/Fri's Satur...he could stay up until Midnite-1am. Tickety boo...he agreed and i was hopeful this would be a new start.</p><p></p><p>Monday...we came home and he was co-operative. Last nite however (Tuesday), all hell broke loose! He challenged me on why he needed to go to sleep at 10:30pm...i explained the reasons re my insomnia, health issues with BiPolar (BP), anxiety etc, and also the fact he takes his medications and needs to rest in order to manage his bipolar disorder. In the past when i've allowed him to stay up late and he literally WILL NOT SLEEP all nite. He will stay up skyping and playing video games...until i wake up in the morning! I tried to be calm and told him these are the rules.....if he doesn't want to stay he can call mental health and leave as they have crisis beds which allows him to stay for 3 days while he finds housing...or he could check with the group home we saw which wasn't bad and see if the room we saw is available..........he started mocking me, calling me names, acting like a total idiot. I threatened to call the police and he said he didn't care that he preferred being at the mental health in patient at the hospital than live with me. Things got bad, i called his grandparents hoping they could talk to him, he just stood against his room door and wouldn't allow me to come in. He asked me to give him the phone but i didn't for fear he would smash it as he has done in the past. So i had them on speaker phone. I felt bad for involving them but didn't know what to do. i called the mental health service and left a msg asking to reserve a bed as i felt the nite wasn't going to end well....they called me back at midnite and i was half asleep explained the situation as best i could. They suggested if he still wanted a bed in the morning to contact them.</p><p></p><p>He went to sleep and this morning i left him a note with the phone numbers of the mental health service as well as indicating if he didn't wish to obey the rules then he was free to leave. I left him sleeping with the dose of medications next to him which he is to take when he wakes up. I am now at work and am worried. </p><p></p><p>Any advice? i told him at the end of the day, we are all trying to help him, but he has to help himself.....don't know why he chooses to take the more difficult road instead of taking steps to help himself????</p><p></p><p>So frustrated!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="LostSoul1, post: 675420, member: 19755"] Here we go again! So my son got released from the mental health unit just this past Monday (the 21st of Dec). He had spent the weekend with me as well as he had gotten a 'pass' - deemed to be safe to be out in the community after his suicide attempt a few weeks ago where he overdosed on some medications. We agreed on the weekend he would come and stay with me while he goes to his mental health program that starts on Jan 6, 2015. Since getting there by bus would take him 1.5 hrs minimum and i didn't want to risk him not going etc. I also indicated i would ensure to check he is attending all the sessions. i agreed to drop him off in the morning providing we leave the house by no later than 6:30am...after which i would go to work. He would then take the bus back to my house. I told him i would support him while he goes thru this program, and hopefully with the help of the counselling, therapy, etc, his mental state will improve. After which he would look at finishing school and hopefully getting a job. I said he could stay as long as he wanted, or he could look into other living arrangements after he finished his counselling program. In the meantime he could go on the waiting list for housing etc. We also reviewed the rules for him staying at my place - 1) Needs to attend the Therapy sessions in January (all of them) 2) Needs to Keep his area in the basement clean, bedroom tidy, clean up after himself 3) NOT to use the stove/oven during the day (as he once practically burned my kitchen down on a couple of occasions). 4) Around bed times, we agreed, during work nites bedtime is n 10:30pm. I have sleep issues and am easily awakened by noise. I also start early in the am for work ie. 7-8 am. 5) I would administer his medications - which i would leave for him for the am and then take his medications at nite for pm. When his program commenced in Jan, we agreed we would then need to be up by 6 am. On non-work nites ie. holidays/Fri's Satur...he could stay up until Midnite-1am. Tickety boo...he agreed and i was hopeful this would be a new start. Monday...we came home and he was co-operative. Last nite however (Tuesday), all hell broke loose! He challenged me on why he needed to go to sleep at 10:30pm...i explained the reasons re my insomnia, health issues with BiPolar (BP), anxiety etc, and also the fact he takes his medications and needs to rest in order to manage his bipolar disorder. In the past when i've allowed him to stay up late and he literally WILL NOT SLEEP all nite. He will stay up skyping and playing video games...until i wake up in the morning! I tried to be calm and told him these are the rules.....if he doesn't want to stay he can call mental health and leave as they have crisis beds which allows him to stay for 3 days while he finds housing...or he could check with the group home we saw which wasn't bad and see if the room we saw is available..........he started mocking me, calling me names, acting like a total idiot. I threatened to call the police and he said he didn't care that he preferred being at the mental health in patient at the hospital than live with me. Things got bad, i called his grandparents hoping they could talk to him, he just stood against his room door and wouldn't allow me to come in. He asked me to give him the phone but i didn't for fear he would smash it as he has done in the past. So i had them on speaker phone. I felt bad for involving them but didn't know what to do. i called the mental health service and left a msg asking to reserve a bed as i felt the nite wasn't going to end well....they called me back at midnite and i was half asleep explained the situation as best i could. They suggested if he still wanted a bed in the morning to contact them. He went to sleep and this morning i left him a note with the phone numbers of the mental health service as well as indicating if he didn't wish to obey the rules then he was free to leave. I left him sleeping with the dose of medications next to him which he is to take when he wakes up. I am now at work and am worried. Any advice? i told him at the end of the day, we are all trying to help him, but he has to help himself.....don't know why he chooses to take the more difficult road instead of taking steps to help himself???? So frustrated! [/QUOTE]
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