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My 19 yr old stopped his depression/adhd medications...
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<blockquote data-quote="LostSoul1" data-source="post: 678333" data-attributes="member: 19755"><p>Well it's been a week since my son left and he has been living at a Shelter. I have to admit, my house feels more peaceful without all that constant chaos and friction. I am actually able to sleep now and get to bed early! He told the staff at the shelter not to release any information to me. Yet, he called me to ask if i can give him his computer. I said, unless he can pay it off the remaining balance, I won't give it to him otherwise i will be left paying for it. Of course he texted me all sort of terrible names etc. To which i replied back you have to stop being so rude and disrespectful to me. </p><p></p><p>He texted me while after asking if he could come by to pick up some of his things ie more clothes. I said he can't enter my home given what took place but i could meet him. He doesn't seem to get it. So was supposed to meet at a library and ended up going to the shelter he is staying at. I asked if he could talk to me for a few minutes, he refused and i asked him to pls work with the case manage to find a place to live as if he doesn't, it will be a sure thing he will end up at the men's shelter which is a god awful horrible place. He said nothing, and just grabbed his bag abruptly and off he went back inside. He is so not open to listening. I asked him also on the way there on the phone if he had changed the privacy access for information....he said yes he did and i am not allowed to be given any info about him. To which i said, ok, how is that going to help you? He ignored me. It hurts me that all i want is what is best for him and he doesn't see that - he treats me like i'm his enemy.</p><p></p><p>So frustrating. On top of that, i spoke to his case manager, and she told me he wants to be taken off the list for supportive housing. He is intent on living alone. I am so fearful, that the time at the shelter will run out eventually as it is not meant for long term, and he is going to end up in a very hardcore men's shelter. Perhaps this is the kick in the pants he needs...but frustrating and scary just the same in knowing he can be making decisions that could so improve the quality of his life. On top of that, the caseworker told me he is no longer going to the mental health program i was taking him to everyday while he lived with me.</p><p>I asked if he could be committed or 'formed' which is what they call it here in Canada. She said only if he gets worse ie. stops taking his medications (but the shelter is currently supervising giving them to him) and unable to care for himself. So essentially it is a wait and see what happens approach.</p><p></p><p>So guess my hands are tied, the case manager, whom he did sign a disclosure of info to me (which hopefully he won't change), said she hasn't given up on him yet. She will leave him on the wait list for supportive housing and see if he will agree for her to take him to his psychiatric appts...which he missed the last one. Also, he said he MAY meet her for coffee next week. </p><p></p><p>I realize i have to back off, as my helping him has not helped him. He is so stubborn and makes such poor choices. My cousin told me i need to step back. His drug card came in the mail and suggested i just mail it to the shelter to his attention. Also, it saddens me it is his birthday on Feb 1...likely i will just send him a birthday card i guess in the mail....</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="LostSoul1, post: 678333, member: 19755"] Well it's been a week since my son left and he has been living at a Shelter. I have to admit, my house feels more peaceful without all that constant chaos and friction. I am actually able to sleep now and get to bed early! He told the staff at the shelter not to release any information to me. Yet, he called me to ask if i can give him his computer. I said, unless he can pay it off the remaining balance, I won't give it to him otherwise i will be left paying for it. Of course he texted me all sort of terrible names etc. To which i replied back you have to stop being so rude and disrespectful to me. He texted me while after asking if he could come by to pick up some of his things ie more clothes. I said he can't enter my home given what took place but i could meet him. He doesn't seem to get it. So was supposed to meet at a library and ended up going to the shelter he is staying at. I asked if he could talk to me for a few minutes, he refused and i asked him to pls work with the case manage to find a place to live as if he doesn't, it will be a sure thing he will end up at the men's shelter which is a god awful horrible place. He said nothing, and just grabbed his bag abruptly and off he went back inside. He is so not open to listening. I asked him also on the way there on the phone if he had changed the privacy access for information....he said yes he did and i am not allowed to be given any info about him. To which i said, ok, how is that going to help you? He ignored me. It hurts me that all i want is what is best for him and he doesn't see that - he treats me like i'm his enemy. So frustrating. On top of that, i spoke to his case manager, and she told me he wants to be taken off the list for supportive housing. He is intent on living alone. I am so fearful, that the time at the shelter will run out eventually as it is not meant for long term, and he is going to end up in a very hardcore men's shelter. Perhaps this is the kick in the pants he needs...but frustrating and scary just the same in knowing he can be making decisions that could so improve the quality of his life. On top of that, the caseworker told me he is no longer going to the mental health program i was taking him to everyday while he lived with me. I asked if he could be committed or 'formed' which is what they call it here in Canada. She said only if he gets worse ie. stops taking his medications (but the shelter is currently supervising giving them to him) and unable to care for himself. So essentially it is a wait and see what happens approach. So guess my hands are tied, the case manager, whom he did sign a disclosure of info to me (which hopefully he won't change), said she hasn't given up on him yet. She will leave him on the wait list for supportive housing and see if he will agree for her to take him to his psychiatric appts...which he missed the last one. Also, he said he MAY meet her for coffee next week. I realize i have to back off, as my helping him has not helped him. He is so stubborn and makes such poor choices. My cousin told me i need to step back. His drug card came in the mail and suggested i just mail it to the shelter to his attention. Also, it saddens me it is his birthday on Feb 1...likely i will just send him a birthday card i guess in the mail.... [/QUOTE]
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