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my 19yr old daughter makes terrible choices and I'm afraid for her safety
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<blockquote data-quote="A dad" data-source="post: 674254" data-attributes="member: 18668"><p>Yeah first thing first your daughter is quite naive and easily influenced even more so when in love. Parents here can tell you more when I say that when in love you do very stupid decisions. The good part is you grow out of it at some point and you are more critical about your next partner the bad part is it takes way to much time to get to the good part. </p><p>But this of course is common knowledge and just part of realities of life.</p><p>Now what you can do well you can detach there is a article on detachment on this forum if you want you can read it. The thing is in your case this probably is the best option as unlike many other adult children on this forum she does not depend on you in any way which means you have little ways of influencing her. </p><p>I also suggest you take those information through the grapevine with a ton of salt as there might be morel lies then truths especially because she has quite a number of people who wish her harm. </p><p>Now what you can also do is try to get close to her and try no to point her lifestyle or choices I know as parents its hard to stop from trying to stop them from their destructive choices but for now there is a wall between you and her and the best way might be to forget the flaws and try to get on her good side. Try to talking about non drug or boys issues like her work and other trivial things. </p><p>I know this works with my youngest if I wanna have any conversation with him talk about things I have no issue with.</p><p>Sorry for what you are going trough.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="A dad, post: 674254, member: 18668"] Yeah first thing first your daughter is quite naive and easily influenced even more so when in love. Parents here can tell you more when I say that when in love you do very stupid decisions. The good part is you grow out of it at some point and you are more critical about your next partner the bad part is it takes way to much time to get to the good part. But this of course is common knowledge and just part of realities of life. Now what you can do well you can detach there is a article on detachment on this forum if you want you can read it. The thing is in your case this probably is the best option as unlike many other adult children on this forum she does not depend on you in any way which means you have little ways of influencing her. I also suggest you take those information through the grapevine with a ton of salt as there might be morel lies then truths especially because she has quite a number of people who wish her harm. Now what you can also do is try to get close to her and try no to point her lifestyle or choices I know as parents its hard to stop from trying to stop them from their destructive choices but for now there is a wall between you and her and the best way might be to forget the flaws and try to get on her good side. Try to talking about non drug or boys issues like her work and other trivial things. I know this works with my youngest if I wanna have any conversation with him talk about things I have no issue with. Sorry for what you are going trough. [/QUOTE]
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