So I am happy to find this website. It helps to know we are not alone. I have a 21 year old son, and then a 20,17 and 15 year old daughter. My husband and I and our children were a pretty happy family until last year when my 20 yr old started having problems. She was a sophomore at an art school, doing well we thought but then things changed. She started telling ( in texts) her boyfriend that she wanted to kill herself and how he ruined her. Long story, but he really didn't do anything to her. We got her help but she quit going to therapy. Then she started her junior year in September and started up again with the texts... she cut her beautiful blonde hair and dyed it black. She started hanging with kids that were in bands and not doing much with their lives. I'm positive she was drinking and smoking weed. In November one of her friends from this group overdosed on heroine. She dropped out of school and came had me to live with us. It had been a nightmare. She got a job as a waitress here in the suburbs, but goes into the city whenever she can to be with her friends. I could go on and on but just wanted some advice as to what to do to get her on her own.