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My 20 year old daughter is making life difficult.
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 708976" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Well, im sorry you had to come here. Its hard to see perfectly normal kids suddenly collapse when in college. Often it is drugs and it could be more than pot if a friend of hers took heroin. Like hangs with like. As a condition to her living back home I would insist she take an unexpected drug test to see what you are dealing with. The test isnt perfect but her reaction to having to take it will show a lot.</p><p></p><p>Meanwhile until you know if shes using drugs give her no money. She is 20, working and no longer in college. She can pay her own bills, which will leave her with little money to buy drugs. Even pot and alcohol are drugs. Dont help her buy them.</p><p>Bands often have drug users as groupies.</p><p>Has she had a mental health evaluation?</p><p></p><p>The bottom line here is that at her age she is a legal adult and you cant force her to do what you like. If she wont follow house rules, you can ask her to leave. Or you can say,"In our house, you either finish school or pay your own bills and dont smoke weed under our roof. If you are sad, you must go for mental health treatment. If you dont like the rules here, maybe its time you look for somewhere else to live." You can help her look for a small room in somebodys house. They are much cheaper than apartments.</p><p></p><p>Im really sorry. Most of us have been through similar. Take care of yourself and the other family members too!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 708976, member: 1550"] Well, im sorry you had to come here. Its hard to see perfectly normal kids suddenly collapse when in college. Often it is drugs and it could be more than pot if a friend of hers took heroin. Like hangs with like. As a condition to her living back home I would insist she take an unexpected drug test to see what you are dealing with. The test isnt perfect but her reaction to having to take it will show a lot. Meanwhile until you know if shes using drugs give her no money. She is 20, working and no longer in college. She can pay her own bills, which will leave her with little money to buy drugs. Even pot and alcohol are drugs. Dont help her buy them. Bands often have drug users as groupies. Has she had a mental health evaluation? The bottom line here is that at her age she is a legal adult and you cant force her to do what you like. If she wont follow house rules, you can ask her to leave. Or you can say,"In our house, you either finish school or pay your own bills and dont smoke weed under our roof. If you are sad, you must go for mental health treatment. If you dont like the rules here, maybe its time you look for somewhere else to live." You can help her look for a small room in somebodys house. They are much cheaper than apartments. Im really sorry. Most of us have been through similar. Take care of yourself and the other family members too! [/QUOTE]
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