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My 20yr.old..mood swings or personality disorder?
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 630509" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Leaving your husand will not fix your son and will seperate you from your daughter. Being an ex addict does not stop a judge from ordering even 50% custody to the father these days. My son just went through a custody battle and I learned a lot about custody.</p><p></p><p>Your son and your daughter are seperate issues. Your son is an adult. If he is afraid of your husband maybe it is because what he says hits home. I'm not sure why you're afraid of your husband. Is he physically violent to you? If so, you need to report each incident to the police or it won't matter if you do go to court. Does he physically abuse your little girl?If he physically hurts you, please do take your daughter and go to a domestic abuse shelter for help. Nobody deserves that. NOBODY.</p><p></p><p>I do feel you are still trying to protect your son from the opinion of other people. You can't. He is what he is. Our mommy love makes us see past their deeds, but other people can be harsh. Your husband has his little one to be concerned about. A two year old truly IS helpless. I'm not defending your husband, because I don't know what you are living through with him, but if you are only upset with him because he is harsh with your adult son, well, I do understand why he would feel the way he does.</p><p></p><p>The good news is that your son can decide to get his act together at any time (and, trust me, a few of our difficult children have shocked us and done just that) and then others will look upon him as a man of courage and strength. I don't think I am the only person who has a very high regard for those who manage to beat the horrific illness of addiction, regardless of what they have done in the past. But in my opinion he is more apt to take that path if you don't mother him and comfort him in his self-destruction.</p><p></p><p>Only you know if your husband is really abusive or just not happy with your son. Those are two separate issues. Hugs much for your hurting heart and all your pain. Hoping you can claw your way toward serenity.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 630509, member: 1550"] Leaving your husand will not fix your son and will seperate you from your daughter. Being an ex addict does not stop a judge from ordering even 50% custody to the father these days. My son just went through a custody battle and I learned a lot about custody. Your son and your daughter are seperate issues. Your son is an adult. If he is afraid of your husband maybe it is because what he says hits home. I'm not sure why you're afraid of your husband. Is he physically violent to you? If so, you need to report each incident to the police or it won't matter if you do go to court. Does he physically abuse your little girl?If he physically hurts you, please do take your daughter and go to a domestic abuse shelter for help. Nobody deserves that. NOBODY. I do feel you are still trying to protect your son from the opinion of other people. You can't. He is what he is. Our mommy love makes us see past their deeds, but other people can be harsh. Your husband has his little one to be concerned about. A two year old truly IS helpless. I'm not defending your husband, because I don't know what you are living through with him, but if you are only upset with him because he is harsh with your adult son, well, I do understand why he would feel the way he does. The good news is that your son can decide to get his act together at any time (and, trust me, a few of our difficult children have shocked us and done just that) and then others will look upon him as a man of courage and strength. I don't think I am the only person who has a very high regard for those who manage to beat the horrific illness of addiction, regardless of what they have done in the past. But in my opinion he is more apt to take that path if you don't mother him and comfort him in his self-destruction. Only you know if your husband is really abusive or just not happy with your son. Those are two separate issues. Hugs much for your hurting heart and all your pain. Hoping you can claw your way toward serenity. [/QUOTE]
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