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My 20yr.old..mood swings or personality disorder?
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<blockquote data-quote="DammitJanet" data-source="post: 630694" data-attributes="member: 1514"><p>I have no idea if I am double responding or not because I have not read all the posts. My attention span is a bit short and I know I may get interrupted at any point with grandkids returning to the house.</p><p></p><p>I know my son's father and I can get into some whopper's of arguments with each other over our son. I know there has been competition in the home. I always say it is like "Rooster of the yard" (I cant say the real words or they get censored...its the C word of the yard!) In the world of chickens there can really only be one dominant male rooster who holds the title of Top Rooster. As the younger rooster's grow up they try to fight with this older rooster but the Top Rooster normally beats them off and they go off and take a few hens with them and start their own little family. When you have two Top Roosters in one yard they will fight to the death. Anyone who knows about chicken fighting knows what I am trying to say.</p><p></p><p>This is worse than the saying about two cooks in the kitchen but it is similar. With two males who are trying to be the dominant one in the home go up against the other - and they are vying for the top female which would be you and me - it can get very ugly fast. </p><p></p><p>My son would throw up the fact that the house we lived in was in my name and his father had no say about who lived there. That put me in a very bad position especially because his father would get mad about the most asinine things. If he couldnt find a certain coffee cup in the morning all hell would break loose. I was told so many times that I was choosing my son over his father. Sometimes it was true. I like to think it was only the times his father was truly being unjust and just trying to find something to pick on. </p><p></p><p>This has caused a major rift in our relationship. We have had a lot of issues in the past 3 years that were not all caused by my son but also caused my SO's brother. It has been ugly and I truly didnt think we would be together today because of it. Last January we almost split up. Something had to change drastically and it was either we were going to go our separate ways or well...I dont know. Tony had left to go out of town for work after a huge fight early one Monday morning and I didnt think we would be together when he came home on that Friday. He called me about an hour after he left that morning and told me something had to change. He didnt want to lose me but we couldnt live with our kids anymore. Either they left...which we both knew would never happen, or we were going to leave. And that is what we did. We moved out of a home we owned and found a little house inside our small city that we both love. We do rent but we are forcing our kids to pay us rent which leaves us with only a small portion of our rent to pay. If they ever stop paying well then they are out and sadly I guess we will return to our old home. To tell the truth I would be happy if I never went back! </p><p></p><p>We are still working on getting back our relationship. Our first option is to hurt each other so we have to work at not doing that. We shall see how this works out.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DammitJanet, post: 630694, member: 1514"] I have no idea if I am double responding or not because I have not read all the posts. My attention span is a bit short and I know I may get interrupted at any point with grandkids returning to the house. I know my son's father and I can get into some whopper's of arguments with each other over our son. I know there has been competition in the home. I always say it is like "Rooster of the yard" (I cant say the real words or they get censored...its the C word of the yard!) In the world of chickens there can really only be one dominant male rooster who holds the title of Top Rooster. As the younger rooster's grow up they try to fight with this older rooster but the Top Rooster normally beats them off and they go off and take a few hens with them and start their own little family. When you have two Top Roosters in one yard they will fight to the death. Anyone who knows about chicken fighting knows what I am trying to say. This is worse than the saying about two cooks in the kitchen but it is similar. With two males who are trying to be the dominant one in the home go up against the other - and they are vying for the top female which would be you and me - it can get very ugly fast. My son would throw up the fact that the house we lived in was in my name and his father had no say about who lived there. That put me in a very bad position especially because his father would get mad about the most asinine things. If he couldnt find a certain coffee cup in the morning all hell would break loose. I was told so many times that I was choosing my son over his father. Sometimes it was true. I like to think it was only the times his father was truly being unjust and just trying to find something to pick on. This has caused a major rift in our relationship. We have had a lot of issues in the past 3 years that were not all caused by my son but also caused my SO's brother. It has been ugly and I truly didnt think we would be together today because of it. Last January we almost split up. Something had to change drastically and it was either we were going to go our separate ways or well...I dont know. Tony had left to go out of town for work after a huge fight early one Monday morning and I didnt think we would be together when he came home on that Friday. He called me about an hour after he left that morning and told me something had to change. He didnt want to lose me but we couldnt live with our kids anymore. Either they left...which we both knew would never happen, or we were going to leave. And that is what we did. We moved out of a home we owned and found a little house inside our small city that we both love. We do rent but we are forcing our kids to pay us rent which leaves us with only a small portion of our rent to pay. If they ever stop paying well then they are out and sadly I guess we will return to our old home. To tell the truth I would be happy if I never went back! We are still working on getting back our relationship. Our first option is to hurt each other so we have to work at not doing that. We shall see how this works out. [/QUOTE]
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