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<blockquote data-quote="Running_for_the_shelter" data-source="post: 6519" data-attributes="member: 2960"><p>Welcome to the site! Yeah, your cub sounds a lot like mine at that age. Mine was allegedly not speech delayed, but his speech didn't develop nearly as quickly as my daughter's had, so we had to wait until he was about 4 to get the I'm-going-to-kill-you rages. Before that he just yelled. I actually considered it progress that he could verbalize any of his rage. Sad, huh? Amazing what you get used to. Anyway, there is hope!</p><p></p><p>You've gotten a lot of good advice so far. It's good to get some evaluations even though (or maybe, especially because) they don't agree. You need a doctor you really trust. Or at least mostly trust! And The Explosive Child is worth every dime. I swear by it. There's a great thread here in about adapting it to younger cubs. </p><p></p><p>I viewed medications as a last resort since no one knows how someone is going to react to a drug and how much it takes to get the desired response. So, we tried a lot of other things first. However, it got to the point where there weren't a lot of options, so we agreed to try them. The first three didn't do anything good at all for us; in fact, the Risperdal was a flipping nightmare. Works well for a lot of people but not in this house. My son is on a relatively low dose of Lamictal now and he is SO much better. Still a handful and we get the occasional rage, but not like it was. </p><p></p><p>My son is now almost six and has been on the Lamictal since about February. His bad days now are what his good days were a year and a half ago. Really. I can't tell you how many times we hauled him out of stores, parks, wherever, and we haven't had to haul him out of a public place in months. We'd put him in his room and hold the door shut when he'd start hurting people and he'd scream for what seemed like forever and throw his trains etc up against the door, which is naturally all pitted and damaged now. He got kicked out of one pre-school and pretty much declared persona non grata at a couple more. And we don't have that anymore. Yeah, I still want to box him up some days and ship him to parts unknown but we have the sweet boy much more than we get the Raging Beast and everyone is a lot happier. </p><p></p><p>I mostly just said all this so you'd know there is hope. Oh, my cub's official diagnosis is Mood Disorder - Not Otherwise Specified because he's a bit young for a true Oppositional Defiant Disorder even though he meets the criteria for it quite nicely, thank you. His doctor says there really isn't a good label for cubs like him, so MD-not otherwise specified is what it is. Anyway, people on this site were a Godsend to me. The folks here really do get it here, because they've lived it. Welcome again and good luck!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Running_for_the_shelter, post: 6519, member: 2960"] Welcome to the site! Yeah, your cub sounds a lot like mine at that age. Mine was allegedly not speech delayed, but his speech didn't develop nearly as quickly as my daughter's had, so we had to wait until he was about 4 to get the I'm-going-to-kill-you rages. Before that he just yelled. I actually considered it progress that he could verbalize any of his rage. Sad, huh? Amazing what you get used to. Anyway, there is hope! You've gotten a lot of good advice so far. It's good to get some evaluations even though (or maybe, especially because) they don't agree. You need a doctor you really trust. Or at least mostly trust! And The Explosive Child is worth every dime. I swear by it. There's a great thread here in about adapting it to younger cubs. I viewed medications as a last resort since no one knows how someone is going to react to a drug and how much it takes to get the desired response. So, we tried a lot of other things first. However, it got to the point where there weren't a lot of options, so we agreed to try them. The first three didn't do anything good at all for us; in fact, the Risperdal was a flipping nightmare. Works well for a lot of people but not in this house. My son is on a relatively low dose of Lamictal now and he is SO much better. Still a handful and we get the occasional rage, but not like it was. My son is now almost six and has been on the Lamictal since about February. His bad days now are what his good days were a year and a half ago. Really. I can't tell you how many times we hauled him out of stores, parks, wherever, and we haven't had to haul him out of a public place in months. We'd put him in his room and hold the door shut when he'd start hurting people and he'd scream for what seemed like forever and throw his trains etc up against the door, which is naturally all pitted and damaged now. He got kicked out of one pre-school and pretty much declared persona non grata at a couple more. And we don't have that anymore. Yeah, I still want to box him up some days and ship him to parts unknown but we have the sweet boy much more than we get the Raging Beast and everyone is a lot happier. I mostly just said all this so you'd know there is hope. Oh, my cub's official diagnosis is Mood Disorder - Not Otherwise Specified because he's a bit young for a true Oppositional Defiant Disorder even though he meets the criteria for it quite nicely, thank you. His doctor says there really isn't a good label for cubs like him, so MD-not otherwise specified is what it is. Anyway, people on this site were a Godsend to me. The folks here really do get it here, because they've lived it. Welcome again and good luck! [/QUOTE]
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