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My 34yo psychotic son threatening suicide
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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 762379" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Dear Angela and 16</p><p></p><p>Why not start your own thread? I am so very sorry you are walking this path too. My son is mentally ill and homeless, too. I first came here more than 7 years ago. It took me many years to be able to tolerate my pain and fear. But I am okay now, even though my son is on the street, I don't know where he is, and don't have a way to contact him.</p><p></p><p>What I eventually accepted was that my son is an adult, and he must be allowed to learn and to decide how he wants to live, according to his own capacities and values, not mine. That is how all of us build a meaningful and purposeful life. Many, many people are psychotic and then they decide to accept help. They do so because they tire of the way that they are living.</p><p></p><p>My values are that if we have a mental illness, we get treatment. My values are we work according to our abilities. My values are that each of us deserves the dignity of a stable home. My values are that we cooperate and pay our way. But these were not my son's values, at least until now. It was so very important that I accepted that my son and I were two different adults with two different sets of priorities. Until I accepted that I was the disordered person, not him.</p><p></p><p>I am very sorry that you are suffering, whoever you are who may be reading this. It is the worst possible pain.</p><p></p><p> I am here to tell you that you can heal. And it is possible to heal, even if your adult child has not. I have accepted that this is the best thing for me, and for my son. That I no longer sacrifice myself for him. By doing that I only made it harder for him. Let alone myself. I have come to accept that it is better that I function and not dash myself against the rocks in despair. I don't believe any of us deserves that and our children don't deserve that, either.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 762379, member: 18958"] Dear Angela and 16 Why not start your own thread? I am so very sorry you are walking this path too. My son is mentally ill and homeless, too. I first came here more than 7 years ago. It took me many years to be able to tolerate my pain and fear. But I am okay now, even though my son is on the street, I don't know where he is, and don't have a way to contact him. What I eventually accepted was that my son is an adult, and he must be allowed to learn and to decide how he wants to live, according to his own capacities and values, not mine. That is how all of us build a meaningful and purposeful life. Many, many people are psychotic and then they decide to accept help. They do so because they tire of the way that they are living. My values are that if we have a mental illness, we get treatment. My values are we work according to our abilities. My values are that each of us deserves the dignity of a stable home. My values are that we cooperate and pay our way. But these were not my son's values, at least until now. It was so very important that I accepted that my son and I were two different adults with two different sets of priorities. Until I accepted that I was the disordered person, not him. I am very sorry that you are suffering, whoever you are who may be reading this. It is the worst possible pain. I am here to tell you that you can heal. And it is possible to heal, even if your adult child has not. I have accepted that this is the best thing for me, and for my son. That I no longer sacrifice myself for him. By doing that I only made it harder for him. Let alone myself. I have come to accept that it is better that I function and not dash myself against the rocks in despair. I don't believe any of us deserves that and our children don't deserve that, either. [/QUOTE]
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