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My 5 y.o. son went missing! About to call 911
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<blockquote data-quote="TerryJ2" data-source="post: 76554" data-attributes="member: 3419"><p>been there done that, 8 million, gazillion times!!!!</p><p></p><p>Basically, I had to hunt my son down and ground him nearly every day for 4 yrs until he "got it." He just thought I was a mean mom. Last yr it finally sank in. It was partly repetition and partly maturity.</p><p></p><p>The only times it really worked, that is, when he stayed put and stayed for the exact amt of time, were when I walked him to and from the house at exact times. Then I reminded him, AND THE PARENTS, that he could only be there X time, and could not go anywhere else. It meant that I was hypervigilant and didn't have more than an hr to myself, and sometimes not more than 10 min. to myself, because difficult child would go to a friend's house uninvited, and then skip on to the next house, and keep going until he found someone who would stay put. Arrgh! That's why it's so important to talk to the parents. Often, they are as clueless as the kids!</p><p></p><p>The sad part was, if he had told me and confirmed it, he would never had been grounded at all. That's the part he didn't "get."</p><p></p><p>Now, he calls from friends' houses, and he also leaves me a note in the kitchen. When he meets someone new, he knows I want to meet the parents and see the house first.</p><p></p><p>I would not call 911 unless it is a true emergency and you have a felon living in your area. with-our G'fg, it will only teach them that 911 isn't really an emergency, it's just a way to rein them in.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TerryJ2, post: 76554, member: 3419"] been there done that, 8 million, gazillion times!!!! Basically, I had to hunt my son down and ground him nearly every day for 4 yrs until he "got it." He just thought I was a mean mom. Last yr it finally sank in. It was partly repetition and partly maturity. The only times it really worked, that is, when he stayed put and stayed for the exact amt of time, were when I walked him to and from the house at exact times. Then I reminded him, AND THE PARENTS, that he could only be there X time, and could not go anywhere else. It meant that I was hypervigilant and didn't have more than an hr to myself, and sometimes not more than 10 min. to myself, because difficult child would go to a friend's house uninvited, and then skip on to the next house, and keep going until he found someone who would stay put. Arrgh! That's why it's so important to talk to the parents. Often, they are as clueless as the kids! The sad part was, if he had told me and confirmed it, he would never had been grounded at all. That's the part he didn't "get." Now, he calls from friends' houses, and he also leaves me a note in the kitchen. When he meets someone new, he knows I want to meet the parents and see the house first. I would not call 911 unless it is a true emergency and you have a felon living in your area. with-our G'fg, it will only teach them that 911 isn't really an emergency, it's just a way to rein them in. [/QUOTE]
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