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My adult 23 year old falling apart
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<blockquote data-quote="GoingNorth" data-source="post: 686494" data-attributes="member: 1963"><p>First of all, the had you pressed charges when the police came after he hit you, he would've been taken and at least had the chance of getting some type of mental health assistance, even if it was in jail.</p><p></p><p>If you son is schizophrenic, there's not much that can be done without medications. He very well might not agree to medications, because his distorted thinking processes are telling him medications are poison, or lobotomizing drugs, or a way to take control of his mind.</p><p></p><p>If he's bipolar, he needs medications and therapy, but is still responsible for his actions. That said, I'm bipolar. Without the medications and therapy, I am non-functional. My illness has led me to make some bad choices. The death of my husband caused me to make a few doozies in the 2 years after he died.</p><p></p><p>Schizophrenic spectrum disorders are the one class of mental illnesses where the sufferer has no control of his/her actions. Their thought processes are so distorted that they cannot make choices. Sadly, the bulk of schizophrenics receive what MH care they get in jail/prison, in state or country hospitals to which they've been sent by a legal system.</p><p></p><p>If he is over 18 there isn't much for you to do as you cannot force him into care. </p><p></p><p>I suggest you look into NAMI in your area, and Narcanon or Alanon, assuming is using anything, and into Families Anonymous if not. Nami anyways as they have info on a lot of resources.</p><p></p><p>Now that i've written a book, how old is you son. Has he ever been evaluated? Is he on medications? If yes, what and what dosages? Does he use street drugs, or pharms bought on the street?</p><p></p><p>If he's violent, he can't live with you. The most important thing of all is your and any younger childrens' safety. He has to be gotten out of the house, even if it's into a shelter to start with. Call NAMI tomorrow.</p><p></p><p>Meanwhile, hugs and best wishes to you and your son. Please, if he becomes violent or destructive again, call the police and ask them to send out a crisis team if your area has them. these are officers specially trained in dealing with the mentally ill. If not, call 911 and request transport for a mentally ill young adult to the nearest Psychiatric ER. </p><p></p><p>Start thinking about a safety plan for you and any other residents of your home, including pets. This includes where do you go when it hits the fan, who do you call, numbers, etc, a small fridge in the (lockable) room you choose to stay in, that holds water and other beverages, snacky type food, etc.) Find somewhere in that room to stash enough medications in a labelled pill minder, and lock up the rest of your medications securely. The trunk of the car is always good. Wear the keys to the cars and the house and garage around your neck. If you have a cellphone, have it charged and ready at all times.If you don't, get one. Even if it's a Kricket or Trac phone.</p><p></p><p>This way if son comes back and rages, or is totally psychotic, you follow your safety plan,make the phone calls. He may trash the house in the process, but you and your family will be safe, and you hopefully have homeowners or renters insurance</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="GoingNorth, post: 686494, member: 1963"] First of all, the had you pressed charges when the police came after he hit you, he would've been taken and at least had the chance of getting some type of mental health assistance, even if it was in jail. If you son is schizophrenic, there's not much that can be done without medications. He very well might not agree to medications, because his distorted thinking processes are telling him medications are poison, or lobotomizing drugs, or a way to take control of his mind. If he's bipolar, he needs medications and therapy, but is still responsible for his actions. That said, I'm bipolar. Without the medications and therapy, I am non-functional. My illness has led me to make some bad choices. The death of my husband caused me to make a few doozies in the 2 years after he died. Schizophrenic spectrum disorders are the one class of mental illnesses where the sufferer has no control of his/her actions. Their thought processes are so distorted that they cannot make choices. Sadly, the bulk of schizophrenics receive what MH care they get in jail/prison, in state or country hospitals to which they've been sent by a legal system. If he is over 18 there isn't much for you to do as you cannot force him into care. I suggest you look into NAMI in your area, and Narcanon or Alanon, assuming is using anything, and into Families Anonymous if not. Nami anyways as they have info on a lot of resources. Now that i've written a book, how old is you son. Has he ever been evaluated? Is he on medications? If yes, what and what dosages? Does he use street drugs, or pharms bought on the street? If he's violent, he can't live with you. The most important thing of all is your and any younger childrens' safety. He has to be gotten out of the house, even if it's into a shelter to start with. Call NAMI tomorrow. Meanwhile, hugs and best wishes to you and your son. Please, if he becomes violent or destructive again, call the police and ask them to send out a crisis team if your area has them. these are officers specially trained in dealing with the mentally ill. If not, call 911 and request transport for a mentally ill young adult to the nearest Psychiatric ER. Start thinking about a safety plan for you and any other residents of your home, including pets. This includes where do you go when it hits the fan, who do you call, numbers, etc, a small fridge in the (lockable) room you choose to stay in, that holds water and other beverages, snacky type food, etc.) Find somewhere in that room to stash enough medications in a labelled pill minder, and lock up the rest of your medications securely. The trunk of the car is always good. Wear the keys to the cars and the house and garage around your neck. If you have a cellphone, have it charged and ready at all times.If you don't, get one. Even if it's a Kricket or Trac phone. This way if son comes back and rages, or is totally psychotic, you follow your safety plan,make the phone calls. He may trash the house in the process, but you and your family will be safe, and you hopefully have homeowners or renters insurance [/QUOTE]
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