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My Adult Son Has Been diagnosed with Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), Severe Depression and Anxiety
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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 724341" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>there are similarities in our stories.</p><p></p><p>i kicked out my son when he was 22. the hope was he would stand on his feet. he was hostile and depressed. he would not get treatment.</p><p></p><p>he became intermittently suicidal. leaving did not propel him to mature. for six years he self medicated with marijuana. he could not hold a job. he was homeless off and on.</p><p></p><p>when he was with us he was aggressive and manipulated with suicide threats.</p><p></p><p>my son will not take ssri's for the same reason. he has tried various medications and could not tolerate them.</p><p></p><p>this is the thing: there is no amount of self-sacrifice on your part that will change this--until he does his part. even 10%. </p><p></p><p>right now your son appears to not be doing anything to help himself.</p><p></p><p> it is not helping him to let him behave abusively and with hostility towards you or in your home. </p><p></p><p>honestly. i know how hard it is to push them away. </p><p></p><p>but my son survived. he is maturing. in fits and starts.</p><p></p><p>i did not help him by trying to protect him. he needed to come to the point where he wanted to, was invested in protecting himself. there had to be some buy in by him.for himself.</p><p></p><p>he is presently in treatment living near us.</p><p></p><p>honestly. this gets harder and harder for me. at first my heart was hard. compared to now. it is really hard now to see how far he has fallen. but i see this was the only course.</p><p></p><p>do i second guess myself? all of the time. but i know there was no other way.</p><p></p><p>the fact that my heart is broken is not the issue. the issue is my son. will he learn to deal with himself, life's challenges? mental illness does not abdicate the need to learn to deal and to chose responsibly.</p><p></p><p>and if he cannot or will not choose responsibly there are social services that will take responsibility.</p><p></p><p>appropriate support is just that. it is not sacrificing everything. it is not doing for. or taking control (which is my wont to do. )</p><p></p><p>as long as i do these things i am standing in the way. i am blocking the very things i yearn for for him: self-suffiency. accountability. responsibility. self-control.</p><p></p><p>i am glad you are here. you are not alone.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 724341, member: 18958"] there are similarities in our stories. i kicked out my son when he was 22. the hope was he would stand on his feet. he was hostile and depressed. he would not get treatment. he became intermittently suicidal. leaving did not propel him to mature. for six years he self medicated with marijuana. he could not hold a job. he was homeless off and on. when he was with us he was aggressive and manipulated with suicide threats. my son will not take ssri's for the same reason. he has tried various medications and could not tolerate them. this is the thing: there is no amount of self-sacrifice on your part that will change this--until he does his part. even 10%. right now your son appears to not be doing anything to help himself. it is not helping him to let him behave abusively and with hostility towards you or in your home. honestly. i know how hard it is to push them away. but my son survived. he is maturing. in fits and starts. i did not help him by trying to protect him. he needed to come to the point where he wanted to, was invested in protecting himself. there had to be some buy in by him.for himself. he is presently in treatment living near us. honestly. this gets harder and harder for me. at first my heart was hard. compared to now. it is really hard now to see how far he has fallen. but i see this was the only course. do i second guess myself? all of the time. but i know there was no other way. the fact that my heart is broken is not the issue. the issue is my son. will he learn to deal with himself, life's challenges? mental illness does not abdicate the need to learn to deal and to chose responsibly. and if he cannot or will not choose responsibly there are social services that will take responsibility. appropriate support is just that. it is not sacrificing everything. it is not doing for. or taking control (which is my wont to do. ) as long as i do these things i am standing in the way. i am blocking the very things i yearn for for him: self-suffiency. accountability. responsibility. self-control. i am glad you are here. you are not alone. [/QUOTE]
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