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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 681800" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>.Given that his reading and writing are so developed he must have wanted to learn at some point.</p><p></p><p>You know I was a normal student as far as I know, but I hated math and felt unable to do it. Until I began to take self-paced courses where everything I needed to understand and perform was within my control. I had set a new educational goal for myself as an adult, and I was newly motivated. Then I loved higher mathematics and consumed it. I could not stop. I wonder if such a thing as self-paced math is available for youngsters.</p><p>Yes. I was the kind of parent that this Dad seems to be. Stressed and over-burdened myself, I did not have the time to supervise my son with his homework to the extent that was optimal, and I relied too much on teachers. And my expectations of them were unrealistic and unfair, now that I look back.</p><p></p><p>If you call an IEP the Dad will be defensive, I think. But no reason not to do it.</p><p></p><p>Personally, I think there is no reason that Jack should have to conform to the demands of standardized testing. It sounds like if left to his own devices, he learns. And if he loves the social skills class (not to mention music), isn't that a really good thing?</p><p></p><p>Nobody is going to change the Dad. I have compassion for him, not blame. Most of us struggle to be the best parents we can. Nobody makes a perfect grade.</p><p></p><p>I see the worst outcome as pushing up against Jack so that he becomes resistant and oppositional, that is, making a problem where none really exists. And really, what I hear you saying is that the parent and the standardized testing requirement are the issue, not the child.</p><p></p><p>COPA</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 681800, member: 18958"] .Given that his reading and writing are so developed he must have wanted to learn at some point. You know I was a normal student as far as I know, but I hated math and felt unable to do it. Until I began to take self-paced courses where everything I needed to understand and perform was within my control. I had set a new educational goal for myself as an adult, and I was newly motivated. Then I loved higher mathematics and consumed it. I could not stop. I wonder if such a thing as self-paced math is available for youngsters. Yes. I was the kind of parent that this Dad seems to be. Stressed and over-burdened myself, I did not have the time to supervise my son with his homework to the extent that was optimal, and I relied too much on teachers. And my expectations of them were unrealistic and unfair, now that I look back. If you call an IEP the Dad will be defensive, I think. But no reason not to do it. Personally, I think there is no reason that Jack should have to conform to the demands of standardized testing. It sounds like if left to his own devices, he learns. And if he loves the social skills class (not to mention music), isn't that a really good thing? Nobody is going to change the Dad. I have compassion for him, not blame. Most of us struggle to be the best parents we can. Nobody makes a perfect grade. I see the worst outcome as pushing up against Jack so that he becomes resistant and oppositional, that is, making a problem where none really exists. And really, what I hear you saying is that the parent and the standardized testing requirement are the issue, not the child. COPA [/QUOTE]
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