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<blockquote data-quote="pigless in VA" data-source="post: 681820" data-attributes="member: 11832"><p>Many of the kids play with their hands. They wiggle their fingers around and stare at the movement. Jack does that, but he also waves his hands around (hand flapping), rocks his body back and forth, clacks his teeth together, and sometimes loses himself staring a his thumb which is pulled way back. </p><p></p><p>When he is completely let loose in P.E. class he spins his whole body in circles and does a lot of skipping around the track. All of these movements he finds calming. He never stops moving. Some of the teachers try to get him to stop rocking. I don't bother him as long as his rocking is gentle. When he rocks so hard that the chair and desk are sliding around and the other kids are distracted, I will go over and massage his shoulders. That seems to help calm him.</p><p></p><p>That's why I think he should get exercise every morning. He never stops moving. Sitting is torture for him. We tried having him stand at a podium for awhile, but his movements were too distracting to the other kids, and he wandered away from the podium. I've asked the Occupational Therapist (OT) if we can give him a bouncy chair from the teachers' work room. </p><p></p><p>I suspect that when Jack repeats phrases over and over that that is also stimming in a different form. Those verbal choices seem to be a pattern with him. The zanier the phrase is, the more likely the other kids will find it funny. Then the others laugh, and he likes that. Last week's phrase was "Sam's soap." Sometimes I can figure out what the phrases mean, sometimes not. He spent a couple of weeks saying the name of his favorite restaurant; that was an easy one. My personal favorite was "blue chocolate letters." </p><p></p><p>Thanks, SWOT. I'm feeling particularly ineffective these days. After writing all this stuff about Jack's dad, I realize that Jack needs me to be angry with him. I can't do that. I can't spend my whole work day angry at someone. I do have a coworker with a shorter fuse, so I think she and I can switch kids for a few days. That might help with some of the work refusal.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="pigless in VA, post: 681820, member: 11832"] Many of the kids play with their hands. They wiggle their fingers around and stare at the movement. Jack does that, but he also waves his hands around (hand flapping), rocks his body back and forth, clacks his teeth together, and sometimes loses himself staring a his thumb which is pulled way back. When he is completely let loose in P.E. class he spins his whole body in circles and does a lot of skipping around the track. All of these movements he finds calming. He never stops moving. Some of the teachers try to get him to stop rocking. I don't bother him as long as his rocking is gentle. When he rocks so hard that the chair and desk are sliding around and the other kids are distracted, I will go over and massage his shoulders. That seems to help calm him. That's why I think he should get exercise every morning. He never stops moving. Sitting is torture for him. We tried having him stand at a podium for awhile, but his movements were too distracting to the other kids, and he wandered away from the podium. I've asked the Occupational Therapist (OT) if we can give him a bouncy chair from the teachers' work room. I suspect that when Jack repeats phrases over and over that that is also stimming in a different form. Those verbal choices seem to be a pattern with him. The zanier the phrase is, the more likely the other kids will find it funny. Then the others laugh, and he likes that. Last week's phrase was "Sam's soap." Sometimes I can figure out what the phrases mean, sometimes not. He spent a couple of weeks saying the name of his favorite restaurant; that was an easy one. My personal favorite was "blue chocolate letters." Thanks, SWOT. I'm feeling particularly ineffective these days. After writing all this stuff about Jack's dad, I realize that Jack needs me to be angry with him. I can't do that. I can't spend my whole work day angry at someone. I do have a coworker with a shorter fuse, so I think she and I can switch kids for a few days. That might help with some of the work refusal. [/QUOTE]
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