Today, a former employee/so-called friend called from NY to say hi to P. In the past, I have asked this person, S, to not say anything about the apartment to my cousin. Today, the superintendent was there, and wanted to talk to P (he's a jerk but I'll save that for another time), so this person put him on the phone. Immediately P said she was coming up to her apt to visit, and he said, "No, you can't do that, it was sold a year ago and has been converted into a condo." She went hysterical. I called S in NY and she explained that she hadn't told P, that the superintendent had blurted it out, and then told me I should tell P the truth. I told her that I have told her the truth, on several occasions, amidst much drama, even in front of a therapist, but S talked over me. Just when S, the Visiting Angels person (a true angel) got her calmed down, the do-gooder called back and it started all over. P gets Ativan at 8 p.m. tonight but I know that won't keep her until morning. I called the head nurse and gave her a heads-up, and suggested that she unplug the phone. This phone biz isn't about P's wellbeing, it's about the woman who called to begin with and called back and made it worse. I will probably have to see P in person tomorrow and go through everything all over again. What do I say? Do I guide her back to la-la land or tell her this is the way it is and that's it? I've gone both directions and it is a circular route. I hate being the bad guy. S from Visiting Angels texted me that P was waiting for me to call her and I never called. What's the point? She's already mad at me and I cannot change anything. She is safe and well cared for. I can't change her reality or any reality and it just wears me out. We are preparing for easy child's grad barbeque on Sunday and I have to make two salads and decorate tomorrow. And we are recovering from a major meltdown with-difficult child, who had a bad day at school and a fight with-his girlfriend and was sobbing last night. He's been back on lithium for just a few days and refuses to take his clonidine as a PRN any more. Any ideas on what to tell P? I left a msg for a supervisor at the NAMI family-to-family group but she hasn't called back yet.